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manchester99
May 11, 2007, 11:39 AM
I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and she recently came back from holiday with her mom, and I could feel something was wrong. So I talked to her about it and her words were that she still loves me but feels differently than how she used to , but she is adament that she loves me. So she said she needed some time to work things out, and that she generally hasn't been the same person she was. Bearing in mind during the period of our relationship two of her family members passed away, so its been a hard time for her but she says she's glad I was there for her.

So basically we are at college living literally within a few minutes walking distance. She says she doesn't want to break contact with me and pretend I'm not there, and that she still wnts to speak to me but that at the moment she can't be in a relationship. My answer is, what should I do? Because I love her so much it just plain hurts that she can't be with me and she says there is nobody else and I believe her, she says that she wants to come back after the summer and be better able to be with me in the relationship again.

What should I do? Wait? Or move on despite her saying she is doing this so she can be with me properly again.

InTheArmsOfGod
May 11, 2007, 12:41 PM
If you love her, you will wait. However, I think it's important to be in contact with her periodically. Every other day perhaps. She may be in a very fragile state at the moment and if you stopped the communication even though she may not want it, she will take that the wrong way and probably think you didn't care or have moved on.

You're in a pretty tough spot and I sympathize with you, but you're in no rush right? Just imagine how much more she'd appreciate you and love you if you stuck around.

gypsy456
May 11, 2007, 04:00 PM
Give her time and space...
Given the fact she lost two familymembers she obviously went through a rough time.

All you can do is be there for her. That's what love is about... being there for the other one.

Good luck !

Jiser
May 12, 2007, 06:05 AM
Read over the board and read past questions and advice! If she says she doesn't want you then:

Its time to accept the harsh truth and start the transition to single life. Its hard but whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? More wary in the future and aware what we are looking for in a relationship and a person.

Treat your relationship as a life experience, you might not be able to treasure the memories you had right now but one day you will. Do not regret but learn and move on, as someone much better is just around the next corner.

You must try follow these: (be strong)

1) Abide by no contact, ignorance is bliss so don't go near the 'grape vine'
2) Work on yourself entirely - hobbies, work, gym
3) Ever wanted to do something in your life? Nows the time
4) Spend more time with your friends and family and renew old social ties
5) Box every memory away and stay away from your fav songs for now - when you can look at it without feeling ill - Ur halfway there!
6) Time does heal :P It just takes a god dam while, but don't mope at home, go out, party, exercise - helps a hell of a lot

You don't need anyone to be happy. Your not alone in this world and everyone goes through it. IT SUXXOR big time but hey there are plenty of nice girls waiting for the right person for them, that could be u! If one doesn't work out you move on to the next and next until they stick! Just takes a while and the only way you can move on is if you choose to. It has to be a personal decision. Keep yourself busy and it will become 2nd nature. Have things to look forward to, like holidays, concerts and other things

You don't want to be friends either until you no longer dream of reconciliation! This maybe never. GIVE HER SPACe!!

The best revenge is to be happy yourself :]

talaniman
May 12, 2007, 06:36 AM
If a female told me that, I would be looking for someone else. Just me, but no on puts me on hold, or thinks I am going to wait for maybe you'll feel like coming back. Ain't that much love in the world. As a matter of fact this is not love.