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Besiy
May 11, 2007, 03:25 AM
Sometimes I think there is really something wrong with me, I'm 21 year old female and have never been in a relationship, never even come close really. My friends have been through countless relationships and on loads of dates and constantly have a guy interested in them, meanwhile I have no one.
I think partly perhaps I am too fussy but I find it really hard to work out if I fancy someone from simply meeting them when out in a club or bar, so whereas most of my girl friends, if a guy comes up to them, they will often be quite happy about it and go off with him, I never tend to do this.
I went to an all girls school, and the majority of people on my course at uni are girls so most of my friends are girls.
The thing is, when I have liked a guy in the past, say someone on my course, I get really really shy around them, too embarrassed to make eye contact, let alone talk to them. And I find it really hard opening up to other people about who I fancy, even my close friends. I get so depressed when I meet up with friends and they ask me 'so how's your love life', I have even resorted to making things up just to I don't feel like such a freak!
Someone please help! What am I doing wrong?

templelane
May 11, 2007, 03:36 AM
Hi, I also went to an all girl's school so I know what you mean about getting shy.

What I did was join a very male society - air cadets and this helped me socialise more with guys. You should try joining something like this, there are loads of things you could do that usually have a lot of lads like woodwork or a bands society. You don't have to join for long - it'll just help you meet some new male friends and this will help you become more comfortable talking to anyone you like. Focus on making some new male friends first and this should help when you come across a guy you like - you'll have something to talk about.

Hope this helps!