mckenzie134
May 6, 2007, 09:22 PM
My girlfriend dumped me 2 months ago said she needed a break .Said we were only going day to day...
Ive realised now what she may have meant is I did not ever aske her to marry me...
We had a grreat relationship no problems, but she had said once before that she needs to realise weather the love she feels for me is enough to be with someone foprever. Anyhow 5 months ago she wanted a break for two weeks so I let her go and we spoke a little we ended up back together and well she was then thinking about where we were going and needed to make her mind up I suppose...
What I rrealise now is she came back after the two weeks for her feelings were strong for me yet I was doubting and just thought she came back to see how things go. Anyway the relationship was great over the next couple of months and now I realise this is where I had to take control and ask her to marry me and put her on the line and make her make a choice.
What I did do was let her think about it but what I have found is that by letting her think about it all that comes out of that is negatives. Cause she has some great ups and rthinks well it could be like this but it only takes a small doubt and she's thinking no again and she's not that happy. I have put it in this kind of way it is like letting a girl who is choosing between two guys make her choice while your hanging around. She was choosing between staying with me forever or not but at the sam time even if she did think I will stay with him I had not even asked her to marry me and therefore even when she thought I can be with him there was nothing tio say except continue to be my girlfriend until something she did not agree with happens and then she says well why do I want to be with him.
Where as if she had to make a choice marry or not then she would have either gone one way or the other and not been able to be as comfortable as she was able to be.
Does anyone understand what I mean??
There was a time while she was thinking thatshe said to me I feel so good about you at the moment, Iwell I'm guessing this is like saying I can be with you but as there was no choice needed at that time she just thought well I can be with him forever and continued on until she then hit a hurdle and decided his not the one I don't like that about him~!!
Ive realised now what she may have meant is I did not ever aske her to marry me...
We had a grreat relationship no problems, but she had said once before that she needs to realise weather the love she feels for me is enough to be with someone foprever. Anyhow 5 months ago she wanted a break for two weeks so I let her go and we spoke a little we ended up back together and well she was then thinking about where we were going and needed to make her mind up I suppose...
What I rrealise now is she came back after the two weeks for her feelings were strong for me yet I was doubting and just thought she came back to see how things go. Anyway the relationship was great over the next couple of months and now I realise this is where I had to take control and ask her to marry me and put her on the line and make her make a choice.
What I did do was let her think about it but what I have found is that by letting her think about it all that comes out of that is negatives. Cause she has some great ups and rthinks well it could be like this but it only takes a small doubt and she's thinking no again and she's not that happy. I have put it in this kind of way it is like letting a girl who is choosing between two guys make her choice while your hanging around. She was choosing between staying with me forever or not but at the sam time even if she did think I will stay with him I had not even asked her to marry me and therefore even when she thought I can be with him there was nothing tio say except continue to be my girlfriend until something she did not agree with happens and then she says well why do I want to be with him.
Where as if she had to make a choice marry or not then she would have either gone one way or the other and not been able to be as comfortable as she was able to be.
Does anyone understand what I mean??
There was a time while she was thinking thatshe said to me I feel so good about you at the moment, Iwell I'm guessing this is like saying I can be with you but as there was no choice needed at that time she just thought well I can be with him forever and continued on until she then hit a hurdle and decided his not the one I don't like that about him~!!