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hollyhunter
May 6, 2007, 11:23 AM
Hey, I need to ask a question. Me and my husband are married and his mother is very mad at us because we don't take our newborn son to her house every weekend all the way to her house, which is 45 minutes away to see her. She called the other day and we wasn't home and left us a message saying that she was going to sue us for grandparents rights, can she do that, and if she can what does it mean?
startover22
May 6, 2007, 12:09 PM
I am not really sure if she can have rights to your baby. Wow, what made her soooo mad about the whole thing? Why can't she just come there to see your new baby? I am interested to see if she CAN sue you. That is just ridiculous in my eyes.
startover22
May 6, 2007, 12:10 PM
I just looked on this same site for an answer, I urge you to go to the search bar and type in grandparents rights. Check it out.
Fr_Chuck
May 6, 2007, 12:15 PM
There are a few states in the US that will allow grandparents visitation rights, but it will not be every weekend, maybe one weekend a month is she is lucky.
And personally I hope your husband calls her and tells her with that attitude you will not be coming over for a while, till she says she is sorry and understands to appreciate the time you do go over.
brandy681
May 7, 2007, 02:46 AM
I think that if she wanted to see her grandchild bad enough she should come and see him and pick him up for the weekend, etc. Do you mind her coming to pick him up? Maybe you should comprmise, 45 minutes is not a long drive.. You should take the grandchild to see her once every two weeks for a weekend, day or something and if she wants to see him more often she can come pick him up from your house. It is only right though that you let her visit with her grandchild, think about how you would feel if your grandchildren don't know who you are very well. Grandparents do have rights too!
How old is she his mother?
She is very selfish for arguing with you about this, and that she will sue you, does she have nothing else better to do! Very selfish for her to react this way, after all your child is a new born, can't she come visit you if she capable of driving?
judnana
Jun 16, 2007, 04:22 PM
For the last 4 years we have not been allowed to see our two granddaughters by our sons first marriage and just last Weds the other grandma decided to make sure our granddaughter got to see us. She then told her daughter, who lives out of state and she was very upset with her mom, but she has been letting her two daughters believe that we wanted nothing to do with them. Not telling them that we had tried over and over to talk to them, sent them letters , etc. and the girls never knew any of this until Weds night. Now the 14 years is VERY ANGRY WITH HER MOM for lying to them, and I am afraid of what she might do if they continue to refuse to let her see us. What can we do to put a stop to this and make sure our granddaughters can be in our lives again, WHICH IS WHAT THEY WANT VERY MUCH. They live out of state and the oldest will be 18 in Sept and does not know any of this yet as she was not here. WHAT CAN WE DO? Now I am afraid they are going to punish the other grandmother too .
kimberlyntony
Jul 10, 2007, 10:25 AM
In most states grandparents only have rights if there child who is 1 of the parents is or becomes deceased.
geobea
Jul 10, 2007, 11:56 AM
My daughter is refusing to communicate with me, there are two grandchrildren , my only grandchrilden, that I love very much and I want to keep intouch with , but I was told by my younger daughter, that the daughter with the children,said the I should consider her family dead to me? I don't feel that way , but I don't want to put my young grandchildren in the middle of a problem . I don't know how it began or why? One day my daughter and I were great and the next she did'nt want to have anything to do with me... I am the only grandparent.
alkalineangel
Jul 10, 2007, 12:14 PM
Grandparents don't have "rights" like parents do unless a parent is deceased or has lost custody... and even then it is not quite what you would think. Grandparents need to understand that esp. with a newborn, traveling is very difficult. My mother in law is 45 minutes away, and she knows that if she wants to come here, she is more than welcome, but we don't have the time or the money to travel that distance every week. When I was younger, I saw my grandparents maybe 5 times a year. Grndparents have raised their children, and grandchildren are not for them to see at all times, that is a parents right.
Grandparents may love to oogle over their grandchildren, but that is all they are... grandchildren, and the parents have the right to choose who they will and will not see. I am sorry for those of you who can not see their grandchildren, I don't think it is right, but there must be some reason that your children don't want them seeing you, or maybe the entire story has not been told. I suggest mending the rifts with your children before demanding to see your grandkids.
To the poster - Your mother can not do anything. She can talk, but it is your child.
linda-lou
Feb 4, 2008, 03:40 PM
My only Son is on his second marriage, no children from first one, but his wife now is expecting, this girl was so very respectful and sweet to this family BEFORE the wedding NOW, she is alienating the whole family and before with the first marriage we saw our Son on a regular bases, now in 2007 we saw him and her maybe 5 times, with this baby coming in July she has already made it very clear she wants us to have nothing to do with getting things for this baby, we were a close nit family before her, but now she is tearing this family apart, I am afraid to say something to my Son for fear he will tell her and she will use that as a bigger wedge this is killing me inside... can someone HELP me to understand this and what to do? Thank-You! linda-lou