How bad is it to fancy a 16 yr old?
I'm in my 20's - mid 20's.. and engaged! :(

Why are you asking this question if you are engaged? Engaged to someone else other than the 16 year old, I would presume.

Well if u just think he is cute, make sure you leave it at that and don't try take it further, why risk what you got for an immature fling with a 16 yr old boy... mmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Im not going to do anything about it! But I have been thinking of him sexually!
Am I sick?

How bad is it to fancy a 16 yr old?
im in my 20's - mid 20's.. and engaged! :(
What does fancy mean?

Im not going to do anything about it!! But i have been thinking of him sexually!
Am i sick?
Sick? Probably not. Thoughtless, foolish and immature? Definitely. If you're willing to indulge in destructive fantasies like this, you aren't ready to get married.

what does fancy mean?
Have a fancy or particular liking or desire

Just make sure you don't do something stupid...
Don't compromise and jeadorise all you have for a silly fling or fantasy you have towards this person...

If you were to do anything foolish it would be considered criminal in most states. There is a reason why they legislature has made this a criminal offense.

My advise: go out there, get him drunk, sleep with him then never see him again, and NEVER tell your fiancé

It is not bad to think this person is cute but stop there and never go past that line. Unless you want to be brought up on sexual exploitation of a minor, be branded as a pedophile and sex offender.

It is not bad to think this person is cute but stop there and never go past that line. Unless you want to be brought up on sexual exploitation of a minor, be branded as a pedophile and sex offender.

You wouldn't be branded as a pedophile because you're only 4 years older, not 5.

But he's a minor!

And you're old enough to act responsibly!

Stick to your fiancé! That kid is just a turn-on that can only cause you trouble.

She said she was in her "mid twenties". That puts her at 24-25. More than 4 years older.

She said she was in her "mid twenties". That puts her at 24-25. More than 4 years older.

Oh Right! Sorry. I got stuck on the 20.

You're definitely right.

Right or wrong, this woman is still in trouble, if she follows through. Hope the teen has more sense than she does.

What's really crazy is when my fiancé and I started having sex he was 17 and I was 18 almost 19. Everyone told me that it was against the law. Well I think in my case there wasn't anything wrong with it. But in yours, your in your 20's. The 16 is probably immiutre. How could he give you what you need? If you think he can, break up your engadment and wait until the guys at least 18 and legal. If that's too long then oh well. If he moves on then he clearly is in it for just lust. Just stay with your fiancé.

I think this saying applies quite well to your situation, its just something iread but it fits

"dont leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love"

Do you plan to or have you already acted on your attraction? The attraction is involuntary so you are not morally or otherwise wrong to feel it. How you process it and respond to it is another thing. You need to avoid being around this person so there is no chance at all that you will find yourself acting on the attraction. It would be entirely inappropriate to flirt with or spend any time alone with this kid.

If you have been attracted to other juveniles, of if you have acted on this attraction, you have a problem and need counseling.

When you are engaged, you should be so excited about that person, you would not want to be with anyone else. Think about that. If they don't fulfill you and hold your interest now, how will they be able to after you've been doing their laundry and seeing all their faults for 35 years?

No no

Well firstly I'd get offended if my guy thought of another woman sexually, even if he didn't plan on doing anything about it. I feel I should be the only woman he needs and if he desires other people than perhaps he is not ready to commit and we'd be better off going our separate ways. Of course that's just me. Not everyone is like me. I'd try to put it in the back of my mind. But if your fiancé is not satisfying you maybe you need to rethink the reason you got engaged in the first place. It is normal to think sexually. Of course when you're with some one it can raise problems and make that person feel as if they are not good enough for you... If they find out that is. Just don't act out upon it. And I'm sure you don't need me to tell you it's against the law. Or eh.. I guess it depends on wherever you're from.

Why would it depend where you're from?

It depends because the laws differ in different places. (So I've found) after visiting 5 different states already. The laws are sometimes different. I know it's illegal from where I came from. Elsewhere I don't know what age requirements are. But I'm sure it's illegal regardless.

Comment was money based

Do you know that you could got to Jail if you presue this? Don't do that... Stick with what you have don't take any chances that are going to mess everything up...

How bad is it to fancy a 16 yr old?
im in my 20's - mid 20's.. and engaged! :(

It's pretty bad. I'd take a long hard look at these feelings. If you find the thoughts obsessive I would recommend going to a therapist and working out these issues BEFORE walking down the aisle with your fiancé. If you have any inclination towards having sex with children you need to clean that out and tell your fiancé. He needs to know that he may be marrying a pedophile. Maybe I'm harsh but I know I would be pissed to all hell if the person I was marrying turned around and cheated on me with a teenager and then was tried for unlawful sex with a minor. Just my 2 cents

It's a bad, bad, bad idea whether you are in the US or UK or anywhere else.

1. because your age difference

2. you're ENGAGED

You might want to do your fiancé a favor and cancel the wedding - you aren't ready.

Im not going to do anything about it!! But i have been thinking of him sexually!
Am i sick?
To think about it, no. You find him attractive and anyone single, engaged, or married can still recognize a person they're attracted to.

To act upon it, yes. There is nothing in the world that would make acting upon this in any way all right.

Wellll..... everyone fancies something they can't/shouldn't have. Should you choose to indulge in it, THAT would make it a bad thing. Although, I'm pretty sure that if you so much as hit on him, you could go to jail for statutory rape.

That's pretty bad dude.