The guy I've started to hang out with broke the plans he had w/ my last week due to a family matter, or so he said. He knew I was going out of town for the weekend, and in a text wrote to have a fun time, and we'll get together when I get back. I wrote him back that it was all good that the plans got cancelled, to have a good weekend himself and we'll talk soon. I got back 2 nights ago and haven't heard from him, which is fine I know we are both busy people. But should I call him if he doesn't call ? I really would like to see him this week, but don't want to come across as being to ancy. Even though I'm sitting here hoping he does want to see me, and all that wasn't just a lame way of saying he's not interested. What do you think?

I would prepare myself and give one last call and defiantly leave a message and then leave it at that. If you don't receive a call later on then he is probably ignoring you and no good person deserves that.

Bottom line, you should call him. You obviously like him and want to talk to him. The cat and mouse game is plain silly if you ask me. This drives people to insanity sometimes. He's actually probably wondering the same thing about you. Should he call you or not and how come you haven't called him. He doesn't want to seem ancy himself. You'll drive yourself crazy in the head wondering if this and wondering if that. You'll get no answers to your questions if you remain silent. This is why I suggest you make the move and call him. Just to say hi even. Ask him what his plans are this weekend and leave it at that. If he wants to see you, he'll ask you. Trust me.

The guy i've started to hang out with broke the plans he had w/ my last week due to a family matter, or so he said. He knew I was going out of town for the weekend, and in a text wrote to have a fun time, and we'll get together when I get back. I wrote him back that it was all good that the plans got cancelled, to have a good weekend himself and we'll talk soon. I got back 2 nights ago and haven't heard from him, which is fine I know we are both busy people. But should I call him if he doesn't call ? I really would like to see him this week, but don't want to come across as being to ancy. Even though i'm sitting here hoping he does want to see me, and all that wasn't just a lame way of saying he's not interested. what do you think?
Call him. You got nothing to lose.

Yes I agree with what others have said... When in doubt do what your heart says... atleast that will you the satisfaction but you know sometimes after you've hung up on a call you feel, Oh why I called him... that also makes you lose yourself respect. So if you really feel you can bear with that thought, then do it.

Man, I feel like I suck at the dating game. It's been awhile since I've been a part of it since I recently got out of a relationship a few months back. But my simple question is, after how many dates is it fair to say us ladies don't have to wait for him to call? I've been out on 5 dates with this great guy, and every date just gets better. Thursday night we had a great overnight date and when we departed he asked when will I see you again, we ended up not setting an exact date because we knew we both were busy the next few days( Friday and saturday), not to mention we live very close to each other. But here it is Sunday, and even though he said to me "have a good weekend" when he dropped me off I really was hoping to see him tonight. Do I call or send him a simple text asking what he's up to? Or leave it in his hands? He's the one that initiated the seeing eacth other soon, I feel like it was my fault for not jumping in with "how about sunday night" but he hasn't called or anything yet and I'd like to see him before he goes out of town mid-week. What do you think? I want to play my cards right w/ this guy.

About 0 dates, girls can even ask guys out for the first date

Nothing wrong with calling him up and asking him to go out. But be prepared for the possibility of him saying he's busy since he said to you "have a good weekend". He may truly be busy if he's planning to be out of town midweek.

Its all fair game, but rejection is a *itch. Most men would be flattered!

I say call him but prepare yourself for any out come. Plan not to be upset or feel rejected if he is busy. Just finish by wishing him a good night and a "call me tomorrow."

I would wait like 2 more days

Call him and tell him you would like to see him before he leaves out of town. What's the worst that could happen!

Call him...
Go on, you know you want to ;)

Thanks for all the responses on the previous question. Sunday early evening rolled around and I sent him a text with "what are you up to later"... to my surprise no reply or call. I didn't want to call him because I knew he had a busy day and didn't want to interrupt it too bad, if he was still in the middle of all his stuff. Was I in the wrong to initiate that question? He was the one who asked when he will see me again a few nights earlier, but we never set anything in stone, and although he told me to have a good weekend when we departed after a great night, I felt like I was casually letting him know I was available that evening if he wanted to hang. But why didn't he reply? I don't get men sometimes, they act eager to see you and then when us girls get the balls to call or let them know we're interested, no response. What's that about?

He's busy. Doesn't matter with what. If he's wants to see you again then he'll call. Hate to say this because I don't like games (I'm sooo glad I'm married) but when he calls don't be so available. Reading your question, it seems as if you are just casually dating and nothing serious. You should go out meet other people and stop waiting for things to happen. I don't think there's anything better than being around friends and family.

At the end of the next date, take a more direct approach and talk about when you'll be seeing each other again.

Don't be dejected as he may be busy, and have a lot to do for his trip. Be patient, he will probably call before he leaves. He doesn't know that you'd want to see him Sunday, so let it ride, and stay busy with your own life. Don't start acting needy and desperate this early, or ever. Not good. Next time you can nail a specific time down between BOTH your busy schedules. To soon for those high expectations in my opinion though.

Thanks for all the responses on the previous question. Sunday early evening rolled around and I sent him a text with "what are you up to later"...to my suprise no reply or call. I didn't want to call him because I knew he had a busy day and didn't want to interupt it too bad, if he was still in the middle of all his stuff. Was I in the wrong to initiate that question? He was the one who asked when he will see me again a few nights earlier, but we never set anything in stone, and although he told me to have a good weekend when we departed after a great night, I felt like I was casually letting him know I was available that evening if he wanted to hang. But why didnt he reply? I don't get men sometimes, they act eager to see you and then when us girls get the balls to call or let them know we're interested, no response. What's that about?


Also he might not of gotten it. I know when I had a certin cell service it would take a day or would never get it. I say call... don't be too much but show your interested...

Good luck... I wish you the best... dating sucks!

Just go get him girl.
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I don't get men. I have started dating this great well rounded fun guy. Every time we hang out the chemisty both sexual and non just keeps getting better and better. Last time we went out it was a great overnight date. He showed me pictures of his family, invited me to his game in a couple of weekends, etc... so I know he has some interest. Or at least I hope. He asked when will he see me again, and we didn't end up setting anything in stone because we knew we both had a couple of busy days, he was leaving to go out of town, etc. So Sunday night I was just chillling and decided to text him with "what are you up to later," I never heard back. The next evening I received a message that he passed out early on Sunday had a long tiring day from the beach and baseball. Okay fine, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and wrote him back with it's all good, I ended up having a long day myself (which I did). But no reply from him, better yet a phone call with "how was your weekend, we should get together before I leave" or anything like that. So what's this guys deal? It all feels real and good when we hang out, but then he doesn't step up the plate to call even though he always references how he wants to see me again. I know to just give it space, maybe he doesn't want to rush into anything? But at the same time, I don't feel like I should wait a week or two to hear from him even with him out of town... I'd rather get a call saying he will call me when he gets back into town... ya know what I mean! Okay thanks for listening, if nothing else, what a great way to vent on here haha.

You should not have to wait a week or two for him to call for even to just ask how you're doing. Sounds very strange. Try calling him and see if you can at least ask if there is any thing wrong, this way you will find out and you would not have to wait on him.

I agree with Rina_4. Try not to wait on him. Give him a call and see whatt's going on.

I'm going to cut to the chase. Sounds like he just wants you as a sex friend.

Well I can tell you ladies what he is going to say," oh there's nothing wrong at all, u're imagining things honey, it's just so crazy at work...oh btw I am like that, very bad at demonstrative my love for you in terms of text and stuff"... try and see if he says this... well if does, then lady, u will have to wait and wait and wait... some people don't change... they look for different avenues... one after another. All I can say is the guy who doesn't reciprocate, is not worth it at all...

Well I can tell you ladies what he is going to say," oh there's nothing wrong at all, u're imagining things honey, it's just so crazy at work...oh btw I am like that, very bad at demonstrative my love for you in terms of text and stuff"...try and see if he says this....well if does, then lady, u will have to wait and wait and wait...some people don't change...they look for different avenues...one after another. All I can say is the guy who doesn't reciprocate, is not worth it at all...


This is very true. Men... goodness! They like to explore many girls and they seem not to be attached to one lady for a while. This is not always true though. But for your best interest meet some new guys. :D

Rockabilly, what you're saying is true about men attraction and we women keep thinking about what went wrong... was something wrong with us or what.. just keep lurking, how sick a feeling actually... can anyone tell why they do this... ummm!

Yes, we need some advice from men I think. I don't find it fair that a guy can put someone down like they do and make the lady feel that it's Their fault, when really, it's not theirs at all.

Call him just to "see whats up" then if the vibe is off you won't look like a total fool.

OH I see where you from.
It has only been once so give him another chance. If he keeps canceling for the rest of the plans then he might really not be interesetd in.
U need to understand him, there could be a family matter. We can't speak for others.

WAIT.

You are on his mind. Give him a few more days. He might be busy.
Then, if you haven't heard, ring him to be included in an activity with a friend so less pressure if you are feeling on the spot...
Then, if all goes well, let the good times toll.
*With many longterm couples I've known the first date was the girl's idea - so when and if you call don't sweat it at all.
It's normal.

As a guy.

Call him.

Nothing I love more than when a girl makes it apparent to me that she's interested. So far it doesn't sound like he's avoiding you, unless you've heard his family thing was a load. If he blows you off again, I'd be worried, but for the time being, I would say your marching orders haven't changed. Give him a call, but don't be offended if he doesn't call you back till like 3 hours later. I'm a guy, and I can honestly say sometimes I'd rather play with my engine block than call a girl back, so don't take it personally, it's just how we're wired.

Give him a call, but if he doesn't answer, don't leave a message. Just leave it at that. Leaving a message would make you appear needy. Then just do your own thing and if he calls, GREAT... and if not, then that is his loss, but at least you won't then be sitting there wondering if you should have said something different on the voicemail you left... trust me, that thought would cross your mind.