I've been seeing this guy for a little over a year when I first met him we would chill here and there we were just friends he was chillin with other girls we stopped hanging out a couple of times but we always started seeing each other again now we are going out we are both really seriously about each other he says he loves me but he can never straight up tell me he says he feels gay saying it he'll ask me if I love him and I of course I say yes because I am deeply in love with him and all he says back is I don't like saying it but I do does he love me or he doesn't say it because he actually doesn't love me it's so confusing how do I know if he actually loves me

If he is so immature as to not be able to say it, I doubt he has the capacity to experience it either.

Equating saying "I love you" to 'feeling gay' points to some other issues as well.

It is hard to tell if a man is telling the truth or not. There are two anwers to this question. You just have to try and figure out which one it is. Good luck.

1. he could feel too shy to say it. Guys have a problem with saying the " I love you" words. It just kind of freaks them out. Why? I have no idea.

2. he just might like you as a friend or just doesn't know if he loves for sure. Don't rush him. Give it some time and see where things go.

Hope this goes well. I know from experience that it won't be easy. You need patience with men. They are the most confusing things about life. Why do you think I'm a lesbian now?

Some men are afriad to say thoes words. But I agree with Northwind_Dagas.


If he can't flat out tell you 'I love you'
He's not ready to love.

Maybe he just isn't ready though. You have to give men some time. But then again not too much. I agree with the both of you but if she loves him then she could hold on for a little longer and see what she wants to do.

We men are very scared to show emotion, it makes us feel weak.and that you will think of us as less "tough"if we show emotional attachment