After playing hot and cold with me, my b/f with whom I broke up coupla months back and then asked him to come back, have been sending messages like OK, let's meet for 1 hr or so to spend some time in a motel... what is he doing?. I mean he could've asked me out for lunch if he wished to really spend time with me... Can men and women alike tell me why is he doing this and what should I do to completely but politely refuse his playtoy demands... I don't want to put him off completely because that is too harsh for me to bear but at the same time want to make it clear that I want more as a buddy from him than just sex... what action would you take?

I suggest that you talk to him about it, let him know how you really feel. If nothing changes, then you should leave this guy and move on with your life, because all he wants is sex only.

Why did you dump him in the first place if you liked him. You musnt really like him that much if you got rid of him to start with...

Sure I liked him and sometimes we start liking someone too soon before we even realize that the person we are with is just treating us as a fling and that we are nothing but just a sex puppet... that's why I dumped him but then thought that I should give him a second chance... and now this what you read in the post...

Doesn't sound like he has changed all that much so dump him again, and get someone who gives you what you want.

I used to date some one like that. They never changed, so finally I had to move on with my life and I am not the kind that gives up really easy. Don't waste your time.

Let him know that you're sorry for dumping him in the first place and that it was a mistake but also let him know how you feel about him and also that you want a serious relationship besides just sex and if he doesn't want a relationship leave him because you'll only end up getting hurt. Remember the person who cares less in a relationship always has more control