View Full Version : My fears are getting in the way of me of having my crush
lost in my little head
Apr 24, 2007, 03:39 PM
So here is the scoop. I have never really dated before and have liked this guy for a while. I am pretty positive that he likes me too. I have given him signals and then he pursued but then I just shut down. I can't even look at him in the eyes and when I am around him I feel like I am holding my breath until I get out of his prescence. I have always wanted to have a relationship but at the same time have feared it. I get mad at myself for doing this because I know I like him and should go for it but my fear of getting embarrassed has always stopped me. I have had a history of regection from people in many ways than one and not just in boyfriends.
This dilema has caused me much wonder and grief and the sooner I get it answered the sooner I can get myself back the way I need it to be. So any suggestions would be most grateful.
akms
Apr 24, 2007, 07:43 PM
Look I'm trans female to male when I first asked someone out they punched me in the face but it felt so much better after because it didn't feel like your chest was going to implode go for it no matter what and keep posting
lost in my little head
Apr 26, 2007, 02:01 PM
So here is the scoop. I have never really dated before and have liked this guy for a while. I am pretty positive that he likes me too. I have given him signals and then he pursued but then I just shut down. I can't even look at him in the eyes and when I am around him I feel like I am holding my breath until I get out of his prescence. I have always wanted to have a relationship but at the same time have feared it. I get mad at myself for doing this because I know I like him and should go for it but my fear of getting embarassed has always stopped me. I have had a history of regection from people in many ways than one and not just in boyfriends.
This dilema has caused me much wonder and grief and the sooner I get it answered the sooner I can get myself back the way I need it to be. So any suggestions would be most grateful.
Thanks for the encouragement but the only problem is that I only see him at school. Also our school is really small so there really isn't a way for me to pull him aside without everyone watching. It's sucks because at this school everyone knows everyone and because there is another girl who I talk to that likes him also.
But on a more positive note I brought a dessert called oreo dirt for a class assignment and he complimented me a couple of times on it.
padddy
Apr 26, 2007, 04:22 PM
reet here's a good answer Go For It lol you only live once n the worst he can say is no a mean I'm not much of a person who dates but if I have the same feelens as u and the same was coming bk to me I wouldn't think twice what u have to do is try and your courage will be seen and he shld nt reject u hope this helps x :)