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Tallarin
Apr 23, 2007, 09:29 AM
Hi there!
So my friend who basically let me know by her actions she didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore (read my previous sob story post) did something that threw me for a loop this morning. During the meetings of our group I have stayed cordial but kept a big distance. I have to confess that the days she didn't make it were very nice for me.

So today, as fate would have it, I had to sit next to her during a meeting because it was the only place left. After the meeting was over and we were getting ready to leave she gave me a HUGE hug and talked chit chat for a few minutes. The whole time my brain was trying to make sense of this. This is the same person who hasn't returned phone calls/emails and during meetings and at school has made it a point to be on the opposite end of where I am at. I know that the chair at the meeting was just a coincidence, but a HUG? And not a "hiya, howdy doo" kind of hug, but the kind of hug you only give a true friend.

I know this is silly but I almost broke down because it took me by surprise, this friend was like a sister to me... What do I do now? My intutition tells me to disappear from this particular group for a while after the big event is over in two weeks, my heart tells me to give it a chance, my brain tells me to RUN because he friendship's over and things will be awkward if it restarts and I will get hurt again.

Have a pleasant April Monday, may the weather be good where you are

maka
Apr 24, 2007, 03:12 AM
Listen to your heart. She sounds like she's trying to keep you close in case the one she's seeing now lets her go. Be brave... I'm sure someone is out there for you and she isn't it.

talaniman
Apr 24, 2007, 05:16 AM
I think that was a nice gesture and you should also. That doesn't mean that you can pick up where you left off, but take it for what it is, a nice gesture.

Tuscany
Apr 24, 2007, 05:20 AM
It sounds like maybe she is playing on your emotions. She knows that you care, and that you would be there for her, and does not want to lose that. But you need to do what makes you feel right. If staying away for awhile is what you need to heal then you need to do that. It is important that you look out for you first.