I just broke with my significant other for the second time. The first time (5 years ago)was because our kids were too young and we were having conflicts. Long Story... So we started to see each other in June and he moved to my house in Agust. Lately the relationship is being not too well, and he decided he must go. Now I feel so bad because in this time I think I'm the one that hurt the relationship. He has to travel a lot and sometimes he is home like 10-15 days a month only. When we talked about ending the relationship he complaint about me, about not receiving him like if he was absent for 10 days. He complaints also, that I don't show up my love or passion to him. The thing is I know he's completely right, I don't know what's going on with me, I know and understand his requests. I'm worried (as I tell him) that I'm getting in to the pre-menopause(I'm 39 next month)and I'm getting hormones problems. The thing is he just left and I feel so sorry, guilty, sand and lonely:( . What is your opinion? Thank you !

My opinion is that you should see a doctor about the hormonal problems and get his/her opinion on any changes with your body.

As for him I think he brings up a valid point in that if you only have 10-15 days a month to be with one another why waste it with petty arguments and a lack of attention. I get the feeling he thinks about you when he's away and he wants to enjoy his 10-15 days with you to the fullest and then when he gets there the good thoughts he had about you don't come true.

But I think what you have to do is figure out what's going on with you. You admit this time you might be responsible which is a huge step because you at least are thinking about this from a logical point of view. If it is hormonal then you need to get a doctor to verify that. He might be able to prescribe something to help you with that.

I know how you feel, read my dilemma. In my opinion and if you still love him I'd try and make it work but I suppose I'm not the best at giving advice being in sort of the same prediciment.

Please see a doctor for those hormone problems, and he should be made aware of those problems, as its something us males have a hard time understanding about our females. Skip the guilt and honestly communicate so he has a chance to understand, and at least be more patient if nothing else.

Talaniman, Thank you! At least I'm getting males point of views, like Chuff'f, they are appreciated since in certain way represents his possible thoughts.