kaye28
Apr 22, 2007, 07:56 AM
my story is I should say.. maybe complicated. I was married young and got divorced last year. I am now 27 and don't have kids. I have a very good friend who's been with me all through this tough time in my life and then eventually, we fall in love with each other. He's 31, has a family with 2 sons outside the country. He was the first one who told me that he had fallen for me. I told him I can only accept his friendship because he's a married man but like what I mentioned before, we have just fallen in love. He hasn't seen his family for 3 years already but I have only met him last November. We both haven't felt this way before and we have tried to break it off but it seems like it just wouldn't work that way. He only sees his family once a year and will go back to work overseas. He told me from the whole time he's been married (7+ yrs), the total time he'd spent with his family is less than a year and he had never fooled around one ever since and was even surprised when he had fallen in love with me.
We love each other very much and he called his wife before and told her that he wants to file for a divorce/annulment. I was able to talk to his wife too and I told her how I feel about him but also told her that it's up to him to choose what he wants. He picked me instead but I told him that his first priority should be his children and he told me that I don't have to worry about that. We're living together right now and we're very much happy. I have never been in love like this and he just takes care of me very well. He told me that we should let go of our past and move on but he wants me to accept his children which I do anyway. I even kept on reminding him to call his kids and plan to visit them soon. The problem I have is my family won't accept him. They said that he will just use me just like my ex-husband but they don't know that he is a completely different person. My mom would say that he's going to be like my dad who fooled around with her and left her too. I'm trying to prove them wrong but they won't accept him. He is a Christian and he admitted that what we did was wrong but it's not that this is a temporary relationship because he wants to marry me and have kids with me. And.. actually, we are now trying to recommit ourselves to God together. I've never been this to close to God and I ask Him every time to forgive me and I always tell Him that if this person is not meant for me, then give me a sign. But each day that passes, our relationship is becoming stronger. Whenever we go to church, I will see him cry and pour out his heart and ask for forgiveness for every single sin that he has done and also, hoping that everyone will accept him for me.
Anyway, we've met wonderful people along the way. Actually, 2 weeks ago, we just met someone who we found out that he works with a lawyer and is willing to help him file his annulment and eventually help out with his papers so he can stay here permanently (in a legal way of course) I am a US citizen but my boyfriend told me that he would never use me at all will try to find a way on his own to be able to stay here and be with me and eventually bring his kids (which is all right with me). But what surprises me too, a few days ago, my brother decided to face him and talk to him and finally... accepted him... I was so happy that time and I pray that I hope in time, everyone will accept him because I think God gave him to me and so am I to him.
I just want to know what is your opinion on this. I am willing to accept and positive and negative opinions since I've heard about them already. I know that I was wrong to fall for a married man.. but we think, we're really meant for each other. It's just the right love at the wrong time. :)
We love each other very much and he called his wife before and told her that he wants to file for a divorce/annulment. I was able to talk to his wife too and I told her how I feel about him but also told her that it's up to him to choose what he wants. He picked me instead but I told him that his first priority should be his children and he told me that I don't have to worry about that. We're living together right now and we're very much happy. I have never been in love like this and he just takes care of me very well. He told me that we should let go of our past and move on but he wants me to accept his children which I do anyway. I even kept on reminding him to call his kids and plan to visit them soon. The problem I have is my family won't accept him. They said that he will just use me just like my ex-husband but they don't know that he is a completely different person. My mom would say that he's going to be like my dad who fooled around with her and left her too. I'm trying to prove them wrong but they won't accept him. He is a Christian and he admitted that what we did was wrong but it's not that this is a temporary relationship because he wants to marry me and have kids with me. And.. actually, we are now trying to recommit ourselves to God together. I've never been this to close to God and I ask Him every time to forgive me and I always tell Him that if this person is not meant for me, then give me a sign. But each day that passes, our relationship is becoming stronger. Whenever we go to church, I will see him cry and pour out his heart and ask for forgiveness for every single sin that he has done and also, hoping that everyone will accept him for me.
Anyway, we've met wonderful people along the way. Actually, 2 weeks ago, we just met someone who we found out that he works with a lawyer and is willing to help him file his annulment and eventually help out with his papers so he can stay here permanently (in a legal way of course) I am a US citizen but my boyfriend told me that he would never use me at all will try to find a way on his own to be able to stay here and be with me and eventually bring his kids (which is all right with me). But what surprises me too, a few days ago, my brother decided to face him and talk to him and finally... accepted him... I was so happy that time and I pray that I hope in time, everyone will accept him because I think God gave him to me and so am I to him.
I just want to know what is your opinion on this. I am willing to accept and positive and negative opinions since I've heard about them already. I know that I was wrong to fall for a married man.. but we think, we're really meant for each other. It's just the right love at the wrong time. :)