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babybear_434
Apr 22, 2007, 01:17 AM
My life is very complicated I have no one to talk too about my problems, my worries. My mother does not talk to me does not want to talk to me. She just wants to tell me to do stuff and then she is done with me. I wish I had someone to talk to that accually cared about the way I feel or what happens to me. I have come to the point were I can't deal with this anymore and I've been thinking about ending my life. I don't know what I should do. Someone please, help me out with this.:( :confused:

tricksda
Apr 22, 2007, 01:49 AM
Could I ask what is going wrong in your life to make u feel this way

Fr_Chuck
Apr 22, 2007, 10:39 AM
There are all sorts of people who will care, many of us here, give hours of our lives every day to be here for you and others who need help.

Next there are normally a special teacher in every school that would be glad to talk with you, and most couselors give their entire life to nothing but helping young people.

Also there are professional groups that can help, here is a clearing house to help you find the correct group 800-DFA-1000

Also if you feel like hurting yourself, these are some great people
800-621-4000

1badchoice
Apr 22, 2007, 03:05 PM
I'm really sad to hear you feeling so alone. Often during the teen years we don't feel we can talk to our parents. Try and aunt, grandparent, neighbor, teacher, school counselor, a friend's mother. You can also get support here. Of course, face to face would probably be most helpful. Don't discount the hotlines. An actual voice to connect with can really help when your really down. As a person who has felt suicidal I just want to say... it will get better. Keep talking, writing, connecting with people in some way. There are people who care. You've found a few here on this site. Cathy

JoeCanada76
Apr 22, 2007, 04:21 PM
I hope you share with us your thoughts, your worries, your concerns. We all here care. I care about you. It might not seem like much but this is a great place to get all your feelings out and to have caring people respond to you and help guide you.

Joe

babybear_434
Apr 22, 2007, 10:45 PM
could i ask what is going wrong in your life to make u feel this way

My father died when I was 11 when he was sick like for a year my mother treated him like pure crap . I hate her for that. Since about 5th grade I have worried about everything and anything. School mostly. My mother is just aggrivating she makes me upset over stupidness. St8 stupidness. When she acts like that it just makes me mad. So madd I could just do anything to relieve myself from the stress of her and everything else I'm worried about. My older sister acts just like her they both do the same thing. All of us are in separate rooms all day long. I'm alwayse by myself. They never want to talk to me about anything even if its about school. Once I didn't see my mother all day and I asked one q and she flipped out. Like she don't even want me her all she wants me for is to do stuff that she is to lazy to do. I can't take this anymore. Feeling lonely all the time. Like I have no one , I can't do this anymore.:(

Confuzzledmonkey
Apr 22, 2007, 10:56 PM
Do you have any school friends (really good ones)? Try spending more time with them do you have grandparents you can visit who are nearby, or phone them. Also if you get feeling really bad try phoning a helpline.

Confronting your mother would also be a good idea tell her that she can do her own work and are prepared to call a helpline or soemthing like that because you feel so bad.

It's a strange reaction to reject you after the death of your father, did she feel it was your fault in any way?

babybear_434
Apr 22, 2007, 11:09 PM
do you have any school friends (really good ones)? try spending more time with them do you have grandparents you can visit who are nearby, or phone them. also if you get feeling really bad try phoning a helpline.

Confronting your mother would also be a good idea tell her that she can do her own work and are prepared to call a helpline or soemthing like that because you feel so bad.

Its a strange reaction to reject you after the death of your father, did she feel it was your fault in any way?

I have grandparents but I won't talk to tell them I need someone out of the picture I just feel weird or like embarrised to talk to one of my family members. I can't confront her. She won't care she willl act like she does but she won't and she will forget about it after a while and we will here no more about it

grammadidi
Apr 22, 2007, 11:13 PM
It sounds like your whole family is grieving in different ways. You probably all need help and if you take the step to find it for you it could be a very positive thing. If nothing else you will feel less alone.

How old are you now? Roughly, where do you live? (ie: State/Province/Country) Is there another family member that you trust? What about a teacher, guidance counselor, minister, neighbour, or even a parent of a friend? A lot of telephone books have a Kid's Help Line in the front pages... take a look. They are good at listening, and it sounds like that will help a lot. Check out your phone book (Yellow Pages) for Crisis Centres or go to your local hospital emergency department and tell them you need to speak either to someone who can help with an emotional and family problem or a social worker.

I have an adopted daughter who just turned 16. She was abandoned and mistreated by both of her parents before she came to live with me. Then my husband (who she called Dad) became ill and died when she was 11. It was very hard for her. There were times when she was just as angry as you, and times when she was hurting so bad that she didn't know what to do. You are NOT alone!

There are a lot of people here that care, and we will try to help, but you really do need to speak to someone in person who can help you and hold you and let you know it will be okay. Please check out the ideas you have been given and if you don't find what you need, keep trying, and let us know and we can come up with different ideas.

Always remember that we are here, so you are NOT alone anymore!

Warm hugs,
Didi

babybear_434
Apr 22, 2007, 11:19 PM
That's all I think I really need I want someone to listen to me and tell me it will be OK and hold me I just want someone to care I don't want to feel as if I'm bymyself anymore. I'm 15 an I can't find anyone to talk to or find someone that I trus but how do I bring it up that I want to talk or something it would be like akward and I'm afraid that if I find someone I want to talk to they will reject me bbecause they don't want to hear my problems or help me

Confuzzledmonkey
Apr 22, 2007, 11:29 PM
If you feel you can't let it all out to them straigh away tell them that you just need to know them more before you can let tell them everything. Does your school have a counsellor? Or do you feel embarrassed visiting her because it may become obvious to classmates?

Where have you looked for people to talk to? If you feel like nobody you have found in your area can help you much try and find an online counsellor or maybe a web community where you can let it out and people will try and help (like here, but if you need there may be a more specified community).

momtofour
Apr 25, 2007, 10:51 AM
my life is very complicated i have no one to talk too about my problems, my worries. my mother does not talk to me does not want to talk to me. she just wants to tell me to do stuff and then she is done with me. i wish i had someone to talk to that accually cared about the way i feel or what happens to me. i have come to the point were i can't deal with this anymore and iv been thinking about ending my life. i dont know what i should do. someone please, help me out with this.:( :confused:
I feel for you. Don't ever feel as though you are alone. Do you have a priest that you can go talk to? If you are not religious that is OK, I think that any priest would be willing to talk to you? There are wonderful youth groups out there with a lot of kids who probably share a lot of similar emotions. It isn't easy being 15 and I feel bad that you cannot go to your parents. Can your school guidance couselor help? They are wodnerful people who chose thos careers just for that reason, to help you get through these difficult years. We all need to feel as though we are safe and loved.