Everyone feels that my mate and I don't have good communication with each other.The things he do like check my phone and etc would make you think he want to be but on the other hand when I do text him and he tells me that he is busy I think otherwise. This can't be the same one that went through my phone.

I always say if someone want to be with you they will make a way. They will not leave you out there for someone else to snatch up. If he saying he is busy and already knows that there's another male friend and I chat.Just need some ideas and some signs.


appreciate only serious answers.

Your first paragraph if fact, your entire post -- says it all. Please break up with him. You don't need that in your life.

We have been friends for nearly 20 yrs

We have been friends for nearly 20 yrs
It's time to unfriend.

The correct term is Friends With Benefits. Or booty call buddies. Friends? No way, but this questions is about being exclusive. Exclusive what? Boyfriend girlfriend? Exclusive sex partners? If you haven't worked that out in your 20 years what makes it a big deal now?

It's no wonder though you are asking this question, because obviously he has done nothing to make this exclusive in any way, and neither have you. Matter of fact it could be said that neither of you has done anything to build an honesty heathy friendship, let alone a relationship, so the sex must be great and there is nothing else.

Now what?