My name is Samantha and I was born at 9:12 P.M on August 6 1985. I was born in Milwaukee,WI in the USA. I have a fianace I was with for a year and 9 months. His name is Jose and he was born on February 24 1986 in San Antonio,Texas in the USA. I love him very much but there is problem in our relationship. He is a controlling type. It is not very severe. He does not use physical violence but it seems more like emotional abuse. He is always accusing me of cheating and he doesn't want me to go out except with him. I don't understand why he thinks I'm unfaithful. I'm always with him or at my father's house. I understand he doesn't want me to go out with other guys because I wouldn't want him to be with other girls but why is he like this? He is so sweet and romantic, never calls me names but is just so jealous. Do you think it will last? Should we get married and what will come of our future? Please help me.

Hi Samantha,

I saw your post today - I hope my reply reaches you before you enter into
a marriage commitment with Jose. From a review of your natal birth chart it appears that before your birthday this year you take on greater adult responsibilities. Pay close attention to your feelings of risk, hesitation and doubt that you expressed in your note. You have great hopes of devoting yourself to a family and a home of your own. You are a loyal, trusting person and expect the same treatment in return.You view the world through the lens of a person who is considerate of others. For your relationship to be successful and rewarding is must be based on mutual respect.

Women who experience intense jealousy from their partners can't know what is missing in the relationship until the possessiveness become so obsessive they become isolated and dependent on the person who is abusing them. You feel vague hesitation now but if you don't address those feelings outright you may soon be overwhelmed with regret. Emotional abuse can quickly escalate into violent abuse. Many people fall victim to a smothering partner before they understand the risks they face by continuing the relationship.

If you have already married Jose it is even more important to seek out a women's support group so you can learn how to make choices to avoid the same pitfalls many other women have unfortunately experienced. When you listen to women tell their family stories you will see for yourself that domestic abuse follows a typical behavior pattern. Abusive behavior is a dysfunction that both partners find hard to overcome once it begins. A reality check may not be romantic but the good feelings that you share with Jose can not compensate for your basic need for safety and security. Possessiveness can seem like the protectiveness that accompanies a loving relationship but it is a destructive attachment while the other is a constructive expression of care and concern.

Though it is difficult to acknowledge the possibility that you might not
want to stake a future on a relationship with Jose, you need to build the family of your dreams on a foundation of safety and security for real love
and happiness to grow. Jose has a romantic adoration for you but that is not a substitute for the real strength it takes to go through the thick and thin of life. Please find a domestic violence support group locally or on-line and seek a consultation there.

Best Wishes,

General Readings:

Samantha - Life's Path: Here are clues to what fate has in store for you. It indicates the type of encounters, events, and opportunities you are likely to experience along your physical life path.

Samantha: August 8, 1985

You are following a path of creativity and self-expression through art, beauty, friendliness, happiness, and harmony. Your creative force helps you through the obstacles life sometimes presents for your experience. You are a welcome addition to most any social gathering. You are a natural host and benefit from socializing. Give of yourself, freely and joyously. You are inclined to be imaginative, inspired, and able to tap deep emotions. You can express yourself well in artistic endeavors of your choice using colors (such as painting and interior decorating), words (such as public speaking, writing, singing, and acting), and form (such as sculpting).

For Year: 2005

This is a year of change for you, a year to get out of the rut. Your opportunities are found outside ordinary routine. New opportunities and new conditions are manifesting (some may appear unexpectedly) -- new relationships, new ideas, new contacts, new enterprises, new plans -- more freedom, more variety, more travel -- broader fields of interest and activity. It is a year of new experiences -- change, growth, fun, freedom. You feel an inner push to go do something, anything, so long as it's a new experience. You notice more opportunities to travel. It is time to take advantage of the prevailing atmosphere of change and variety to learn something new. The year adds new life and color to your undertakings. The changes can be thrilling and inspiring. Now is the time to take advantage of the enhanced sense of freedom you feel and create new outlets for your genius. It is also a time to let older people and children inspire you.

Next Year's Path:

For Year: 2006

This is a year of service for you, a duty year. You feel you're assuming new responsibilities. People make more demands of you this year. You are needed in many directions. Warmth and good will toward others, along with love and harmony, will make everything worthwhile. Justice, fair play, and honesty are important. It is a year for unselfish service.


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Jose - Life's Path: Here are clues to what fate has in store for you. It indicates the type of encounters, events, and opportunities you are likely to experience along your physical life path.

Jose: February 24, 1986

Your path to holds frequent change, variety, travel, and the unexpected with a thorough mingling among humanity. You will grow by adapting yourself to change and uncertainty. Crowds and audiences appeal to you. You are passionately independent. You experience restlessness or impatience when things move along too slowly or when constant repetition becomes monotonous. You sense that experience is the best teacher and that you learn best while you maintain your sense of individual freedom. You may have a tendency to misuse your freedom with over-indulgence of the senses, but that can be corrected by using your holistic sense of free will to go on to new adventures, and thereby discarding what no longer serves a purpose. You have an innate ingenuity and can benefit from scientific, inventive, and resourceful people. You are versatile and clever. Things don't stay the same for long where you are. You can understand all classes and conditions of people and can adapt yourself to unusual circumstances and conditions. Be alert to seize all that is novel and progressive. You
profit by contact with other people.

Next Year's Path:

For Year: 2006

This is your year for personal reflection and perfection, a year of introspection. You feel like analyzing everything you have been and are doing. You think about beauty, love, perfection, and what life is all about.You spend a good deal of time alone, getting acquainted with yourself and your new inner power. This year you gain a better understanding of your emotions and your spiritual nature. Take time out to rest, study, read, and travel, and to look at life from a different angle. Find outlets for personal creative expression. This is the year to pursue those new studies.