Claudia2007
Apr 18, 2007, 10:43 AM
I am unmarried. He is married. We work on the same team and have been having an affair for the past year. The affair was consumed at the office (the emotional part) and we has sex occasionally but always outside the office. I kept him away from my personal life and did not get involved in his.
When he wanted to get closer and did out of place things (such as constantly calling me from his vacation with the wife), I pulled back slightly as I saw he started developing feelings and I wanted to cool off things. Unfortunately tension was added when he surprised me with a wonderful gift and did not receive the expected reaction from my side.
As such, about a month ago he started messing around with another coworker. Either because this way he wants to show me it is over from his side as well, or simply because it just came in handy as distraction while I became too complicated to deal with.
I see things progressing by the way them and although I am slightly hurt in my ego (no matter who you are you can't simply ignore the fact that a person who gave you all their attention now gives it to somebody else- all this happening openly, under your eyes), I am more concerned about the fact that this 'let's-see-who-laughs-in-the-end' game will hurt our overall work relationship (an that is a pitty because we do make a great team). How should I go about and be smart on this one?
When he wanted to get closer and did out of place things (such as constantly calling me from his vacation with the wife), I pulled back slightly as I saw he started developing feelings and I wanted to cool off things. Unfortunately tension was added when he surprised me with a wonderful gift and did not receive the expected reaction from my side.
As such, about a month ago he started messing around with another coworker. Either because this way he wants to show me it is over from his side as well, or simply because it just came in handy as distraction while I became too complicated to deal with.
I see things progressing by the way them and although I am slightly hurt in my ego (no matter who you are you can't simply ignore the fact that a person who gave you all their attention now gives it to somebody else- all this happening openly, under your eyes), I am more concerned about the fact that this 'let's-see-who-laughs-in-the-end' game will hurt our overall work relationship (an that is a pitty because we do make a great team). How should I go about and be smart on this one?