My son and I were very close; he and I use to talk daily during his undergraduate years. The day prior to his graduation from college he told my husband that he was a homosexual man. He had fallen in love with his professor who was 20 years older them him. I returned home to my son and his professor loading up a moving van. When I asked what was going on, I was told, "your husband hates me and you are basically an idiot, so you will believe him verses me. Therefore, I am leaving and I don't want to see you, him or any of your children ever again. That was May 2017.

He still talks to our extended family members and they all find his attitude about his father and I amusing. They laugh and many say to us, "that our Christian teaching didn't do much for him because he has turned away from us and the church friends that he met during his time in secondary school.

How did you and your husband receive his news of him being homosexual?

In addition to answering tal's question, please tell us if your son has ever mentioned homosexuality in general terms when you and he talked? If so, how did you answer his question(s)?

You forgot to ask a question. Do you want advice, or opinion, or what?
My opinion is that you don't sound very proactive. You just accepted his words. Is he right? Do you just go along with your husband? Do you consider your religious beliefs to be more important to you than losing your son?
My advice is ---- I'll wait to see if you want it...

Not really enough information to give advice on this. I'd like to hear the answers to the questions other posters have asked. You mention religion, so I'm assuming that you did not receive the news of your son being gay very well. Is that accurate?

Need more info before we can offer any sort of advice.