We've never met in real life nor have she seen my pics and no videocalls or voice calls at all we only chatted on Kik for 5 months but how is it possible to be this attached to her still even though we stopped talking for like 5 months now?

I still think about her and how I should've kept it going instead of just leaving it there in silence. I found out she also got back with her ex who cheated on her few weeks after we went into full silence with each other. Was I considered a rebound or someone she used to make her ex jelly? But we had a great 5 months of chatting it felt real to me cause we got to that sweet talks and like that we were saying "i love you's" to each other and all that cheesy stuffs about how we should be together and how we should end up together in real life. It still hurts me up to now to think about how easy it was for her to move on and just forget about something that we almost had. It's like "she's moved on while im still grieving" kind of situation. How should I deal with this I think I'm going nuts for this girl I liked her way too much

"How should I deal with this I think I'm going nuts for this girl I liked her way too much".



Asked and answered!

You obviously have too much time on your hands if you have not found a way to deal with the tease of just chatting with some one. Chatting is the same as just flirting. Fun to do, but going nowhere fast.


It's like "she's moved on while im still grieving" kind of situation.

No it's not. It's not even close, it's more like two people whose live intersected for a while and then you both got busy and moved on to the next thing in your life.

I guess you didn't find a next thing in your life yet. Let it go and get busy with reality.

You never met... thus this relationship is COMPLETELY in your head... it never existed. It's a fantasy you've created, which I guarantee you if you ever DID meet, would be proven wrong.

Nothing here to see, nothing here to even grieve about, all you ever were was internet chat buddies, nothing more.

Move on, find a real person who is actually local to you, stop wasting time on "internet romances" which are anything but.

How is it so hard to not be that attached to a certain somebody?

If they aren't someone to can take out to dinner or sit across a table from... or hold their hand, then what you are doing is creating this fantasy in your mind about what they are really like, and because its YOUR mind and YOUR fantasy, its never going to be what they are actually like in real life. You set yourself up for serious disappointment by doing that.

You are not attached, you just keep remembering the attraction. Your memory keeps those feelings alive and fresh in your mind. Most of us learn to deal with those feelings by doing other things with other people, and that's called "moving on with your life". You will always have the memories from time to time but without the intensity you had before.

I still remember every girlfriend and every date I ever had, mostly fond memories, but they never last long because who has time to sit and go over and over past experiences? Sure for a while it's haunting but when you find yourself dwelling on her, it's time to get off your a$$ and find some task, event, or project to get busy with. Volunteer for something useful for a while, as putting time between this adventure and TODAY is important in getting past feelings put in their proper place... in the PAST.

It's only been a few months, and you just need more time. Maybe the whole point of your problem is you need to get a life that you enjoy with family, friends, and activities, that make you happy, and give yourself the TIME to heal properly. Still frustrating at times though, I know, but that too will change in TIME.

Ya I am happy, I do things with my family and friends. It's just that when it's 12am in the midnight I just can't stop myself from thinking about her and how she's doing and I was such a douche for not having the closure. I never tried to talk to her again after the last smiley emoticon she sent me because I feel like I was bothering her. And she never missed me or at least sent me a "imy" message so I assumed she really doesn't want it anymore and that's heartbreaking for me at least. We were just so close I felt like I knew her a long time. There was just something about her that kept me from stopping to talk to her earlier. I always wanted to stop it before it could come to this point but I wasn't able to dodge the bullet. It hit me before I could even see it coming. Pft this is going to be hard but I'll make it, I got to make it somehow. Danke guys!

It gets easier by the day... before long you are going to wonder what the big deal ever was and will see our point. You will have also learned a valuable life lesson and grown just that much wiser.

LOL, I have been haunted by old gf's/memories before. Still do from time to time, but they have lost the ability to lose sleep over. Sometimes they get in your dreams, and leave you wondering the next morning, but not for long as the reality of the days' challenges washes that away quickly. You may as well accept your feelings whatever they are, and DEAL with them. They are YOURS.

Acceptance IS closure. In TIME you will gain acceptance. Or sit on the pity pot, and drown in your own shat!


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Time heals for sure, but the scars fxck you up.

You live and learn. How old are you?

Sure thing, 21, still have a lot to learn hehe

Relax you have plenty of time so ENJOY learning. I'm still laughing about some of the stuff I learned.

Let me tell you I think EVERY guy goes through this at some point... some while younger than others, and the circumstances might be different, but you have to to through it to learn from it. Otherwise you won't know "the one" when you meet her unless you have had a few duds to compare to so you know what good actually is. And its never the first few you might think are good at that time.

Thanks for all of your responses guys! Appreciate it. Servus!