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LadyLuckyy
Dec 25, 2016, 03:44 AM
I met a guy online and I'm feeling upset about the contact frequency?
This is what annoyed me a lot: I met a guy online a month ago. We cammed for three times then I began to have feeling for him. It's strange, I feel different from what he texted and what he impressed me in the cam. A bit shocking. I found he s amazing in the cam.

The 3rd cam lasted for an hr. He told I'm unconfident but he thinks I'm sexy. After that we keep in touch through texts. He said he needs a partner as what I want too and want we both work towards that. But what upsets me is he doesn't text me everyday. Just four days a time and just 'how are you, what you doing, I miss you. '

I feel strange, because I want to talk more , more details like what you did today and what you going to do tomorrow... But I can't get from him. I'm feeling like that I want to talk more but I can't. I been thinking a lot a about this guy. He gave me difficult feelings. I searched a lot questions about frequency contact of online relationship no answer matched my situation. It effected me a lot these days. Waiting for the text sucks.

I don't know if he s still dating some others. I don't know what's on his mind? So if I go asking him about my feeling I am afraid of getting a cold shoulder. Am I just the one? I am just the backup?

Just he texts every five days around, I really don't know what to do.

tickle
Dec 25, 2016, 06:47 AM
Until you meet up with him; I am assuming you haven't met yet. Seeing someone on webcam is not meeting, it is only looking. You can know nothing about each other until you talk face to face and gauge responses. It isn't a long distance relationship, it is nothing. You have had previous problems with this on line chat thing; trying to figure someone out. It cant be done on line.

Cant you find someone in real life to talk to?

Fr_Chuck
Dec 25, 2016, 08:49 AM
Plan a meeting, in person. See how he is, in real life.

Some people talk great in person (or video) and suck at writing.

I can not write long romantic letters if I wanted, just not my nature, lots of men are that way.

But be careful, over 1/2 of online romance is scams of some sort, some for money, others for sexy photos online, and others just find ways to meet new girls for sex and then move on to others.

Don't let your heart go anywhere without knowing him in person first.

talaniman
Dec 25, 2016, 09:50 AM
How old are you both, and what is the distance between you? Maybe it's a big red flag that you cannot communicate on a texting level.

LadyLuckyy
Dec 25, 2016, 07:09 PM
We 33 &35. 11 hrs different.

talaniman
Dec 26, 2016, 01:14 PM
You obviously are lousy text buddies, so if you can't be just occasional cam buddies, or just long distance friends I fail to see what your problem is other than being stuck in a dead end frustrating situation.

You encountered him, why not take your chances with someone else, local with more chances to actually interact socially. At the very least a more compatible text "buddy". Learn from this experience and rise above the false hope and expectations that has you spinning your wheels in confusion.

An honest cam/phone conversation could have cleared this up weeks ago. Why didn't YOU express your concerns, thought, or wishes to him?