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Pebblesloves
Nov 16, 2016, 12:42 AM
I couldn't fine a proper way if there is any to tell me ex that I no longer wanted to have communication so I decided to write a good bye letter. What do you think about it. Is it okay to put all my feeling out there or what do you think? BTW he broke up with me I did no contact for 30 days and he was still calling and texting until one day I answered and I realize I just don't want to have communication.

Look (name) me an you aren't together anymore and I cant just act like I don't feel nothing for you anymore. I know your not coming back and Eventually your going to have another relationship and by then I would like to have already moved on. I don't like to feel like Im being treated like the last resort or someone to feel pity for me. Don't feel bad if you just don't feel it in your heart to talk to me and when you happen to remember that you haven't called or text you do it just to probably ease your mind. Im not blaming you that's just what you make me feel on how you go about calling me like you call once and then your gone then one message and again like you appear and disappear playing games like were friends. Yes I enjoy our conversations I cant never get enough of them because I'm talking to you at the same time Im hurting.
You got to understand where Im coming from and my point of view my feeling are on the line just because you feel nothing for me no more doesn't mean I don't. I've managed to be okay and this you know; but I don't like putting a front like if I don't feel nothing ever since you've been gone. If that's what you wanted to hear and read that Im suffering yea but I don't blame you its my fault but Im going to be fine. And well
I can only assume things and knowing about you just makes me assume more you know why because your intelligent you're a fine looking guy your young and you have nothing to lose like there is a possibility you already are talking to someone and since that person is not familiar you want to keep me on the side because you know me and you also know my feeling towards you your smart and I just don't want to think about anything because I do love you and I just want to let you go because I truly desire your happiness. Happiness that I couldn't give you. Just let me move on. Its better if I know nothing about you because the more I know the more I miss. As I write this Im crying. I promise you I will forget you. I hope one day if or when I receive a call from you is for you to tell me that you've found what you always wished for. I swear on my mother I want you to be happy. I want you to be happy since I never could make you happy . I love you (name).
This is not me being emotional this is me being real about my feeling I put my feeling out there without caring about being judged...

Good bye.

CravenMorhead
Nov 16, 2016, 08:21 AM
You're starting confrontational. Never a good way to start any letter.

Double negative, "don't feel nothing" should be "don't feel anything"
Know the difference between your and you're

Okay, I got a few sentences into it. I don't think this will help anything.

I don't think you should send anything. You don't owe him anything. Block his texts, block him on Facebook, and block any other form of contact. You DO NOT need the last word here. The last words have already been spoken, it doesn't matter who said them, just that they've been said.

Block him and move on. Doing this letter is just keep old wounds open that you desperately want to heal.

joypulv
Nov 16, 2016, 10:14 AM
Sounds like you already sent it.
Doesn't sound that bad to me. After all, he's the one contacting you. He can't resist wondering where you stand, and if you are dating or not. He might be not getting dates. A girlfriend or two turned out to be awful. GREAT!!!

(I don't think anyone in the world is actually concerned for the happiness of the person who dumped them, however. But what the heck, you think you feel that, and that's all that matters. It isn't hurting anything. He might even come crawling back....)

Fr_Chuck
Nov 16, 2016, 05:40 PM
Opinion, don't do a letter, just stop communication. Stop talking, don't answer the calls, block them on social media and move on.

You write a letter, she calls about it, you argue and so on.

talaniman
Nov 17, 2016, 08:26 AM
BURN the letter and get back to NO CONTACT!

When you get dumped you disappear from their life. Don't know why you didn't just say you were busy, and block him in the first place. Maybe he still wants you in his life as a friend rather than girlfriend, who knows but whatever his reasons its obvious you don't feel the same so tell him so.

I hate letters, and think you do better just speaking up for yourself... like you should have done when he called and you answered.

Pebblesloves
Nov 17, 2016, 10:47 AM
All these replies were so helpful I never sent it I went back to no contact.I feel better my contact is not deserved nor an explanation since he walked out I didn't he gave up on me when I had a million reason to do it before. Thank guys! All of you.