Hey there,

Earlier this year this guy and I hit it off, went on a few dates and spoke every day while I was in school in another city over the span of three months. He even flew out to where I was going to school to drive back with me on the long drive back home. He talked about all of these summer plans he wanted to do with me and we had planned out a trip and everything. Then, two weeks in to me being home he ghosted. Completely stopped talking to me. I saw him out and he brushed me off in front of our friends but then stood in the hall way when he was leaving expecting me to go home with him (and I didn't). A month later I saw him out and would not give him the time of Day after he treated me like that. Fast forward to a few days ago and he is asking to see me, apologizing for being away and not having time to see me and saying he really likes me? He asked me to have dinner and go to a movie tonight and, out of curiosity, I agreed. When it was time to meet up he cancelled due to a family issue and asked to reschedule for later this week. He apologized a few times after cancelling and said he had been looking forward to it. I don't understand this at all. Is he just playing games? Am I just a booty call kind of thing? Thank you for any insight!

I'd like to know why you are wasting time on someone like that in the first place.

If you drop your pants and spread your legs if you are decent looking most guys will take you up on it, but its clear he sees an interest in you only when its convenient for him.


There are better guys out there if you look for them.

Had you been sleeping with him? That is what would make you a booty call. You guys are not exclusive so go out with him if you want and don't if you don't want. It's a date, not a proposal, the choice is yours. But if he had been rude and ill-mannered to you, why would you be asking if you should go out with him again?

I guess no one actually expresses their thoughts and feelings anymore. He 'ghosts,' you 'call him out,' he stops talking. Isn't that for 12 year olds?

When he first started ignoring you, you could have ASKED him what was wrong. That's all. "Hey, is something wrong?" Then, if no answer that you can accept, you drop the subject and drop HIM.
Odds are that there's another girl who keeps dropping him. You're his standby, second fiddle.

I don't know what his deal is but chances are, if you had sex with him then maybe that's all that it is just sex/dinner. You either ask him directly, or don't waste your time on someone who treated you less than well. More than likely though your interest in him is much keener than his in you, and honestly I can't for the life of me understand why you never confronted him about the shabby treatment before you accepted another date with him.

There has to be a million guys better to date.

He didn't ghost, you saw him at parties and other places, and he totally blew you off! He didn't contact you, he ignored you, and now he suddenly has an itch and he wants you to scratch it, probably because no one else will.

It's your choice whether to go out with him again. Sometimes it takes a while to learn that you can't change someone. He treated you like crap, and I'd bet money that given the chance, he'll do it again. So it really depends on how much you want to continue to invest in this person, and how willing you are to be hurt again.

If you do decide to go out to dinner with him, the first thing that needs to be discussed is how he treated you, and you have to make it very clear that you did not and will not ever find that acceptable, and if he does it again, that's it.

I wouldn't waste my time! It's pretty clear the motives in this situation. If you have been sleeping with him as stated above, I'm sorry but yes you were a booty call. If you have no investment with this guy, there is no reason to stress it! Move on and don't have contact with him ever again!

Don't waste your time on someone who treated you less than well. More than likely though your interest in him is much keener than his in you.

I wouldn't concern yourself with this guy. He sounds like a player to me, which means someone that will not be around long.

He will play you along
As long as you drop your thong
All he is interested in is Dipping his Dong
Move along before you are pregnant, which is Wrong