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Wardak Lady
Jun 26, 2016, 06:12 AM
My name is Vennus and I'm 18 years old. Recently my parents decided to make me engaged with someone that I don't want to be with the reason I don't want the engagement is because I love someone with all my heart and we both cant live without each other. So far because of my parent's reputation I haven't told the guy that I love someone else because in our society and religion its forbidden for the girls to love someone. It's a long time relationship about 4 years and I want to spend my whole life with him. Please help me I don't know what to do ?

joypulv
Jun 26, 2016, 10:16 AM
It helps to know that you are 18, but we can't tell you 'what to do' because we know nothing about the entire culture surrounding your problem. Where in the world, and what religion, would be a start.

To those of us in the US, we just walk away from our parents when we are old enough, if we don't agree with them. But we understand how different it can be elsewhere. Many young couples, even with strict Muslim or Hindu parents, DO run away together for love. You risk being very poor and totally disowned by both families, but people do it.

You haven't said one word about what HIS ideas are. If you are both totally helpless, then you do what your parents want. If you are willing to take huge risks and heartbreaks, you run away together.
Did you think there were other options?
Has either one of you spoken to your parents about this, or do you think total strangers are going to solve it?

I'm not really being harsh. Reality can be much harsher.

catonsville
Jun 26, 2016, 10:48 AM
One other thing, you have expressed your love for him, does he feel the same way? You need to find out his feeling first. As has been said, walking away together is a real tough decision and should be done carefully in order to succeed. It can
work if the love is equal.