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husna mohd
Jun 20, 2016, 05:47 AM
Assalaam aalikum,
I am married since 5 years and I am living with my in laws 2 brother in laws,sister in law with her husband and child.I got 2 daughters mashallah.my mother in law wants her daughter to be happy she is working.and I have to do most of the housework my mother-in-law doesn't want her daughter to work in the house.I am really getting tired I asked my husband to get separated because this is not fair.I am educated but they are working so I cant .on this basis according to Islam can I get separated.to help someone for sometimes its OK but not always.what should I do.

joypulv
Jun 20, 2016, 06:09 AM
I haven't seen any of the Muslim responders we used to see here, so I don't know what Islam has to say about this. I suspect that there is no exact rule, and that it goes by where you live and how strict the imams are there, as well as any state laws.
I and I'm sure the other responders here are sympathetic with your feelings and rights. But there are a lot of questions, because you have 2 children. Would you take them to your parents' home? Would your family accept you? What did your husband say when you said you wanted this?
What if you actually looked for a job and found one - could the entire family contribute to a housekeeper/maid/cook? That would be the ideal I would think. You could even offer almost your entire paycheck to pay her salary!
Make it sound positive - you want to use your education for a job, etc.

afaroo
Jun 21, 2016, 03:50 AM
Hello Husna,

Joypulv stated very well and please respond to the questions asked, the main question is where you leave if you are any Islamic country it is hard to be separated from your husband, when you asked your husband what was his respond, have you consulted with your family or an Imam if you have any, lets wait for your responds to Joypulv question, Thanks.

talaniman
Jun 21, 2016, 07:02 AM
Your location is very crucial to what you can actually do to resolve your issues with your husbands family as local tradition, customs,and laws, both religious, and cultural, would apply here, as well as the circumstances of your husbands wishes and his influence and family position.

Yes many questions must be answered before any suggestions can be made.