View Full Version : Should I "Do It"?
valgal
Apr 13, 2007, 06:14 PM
I'm 14 and I'm a virgin, I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. I'm not looking for a long lasting relationship with him. I just want to be with him for a short time, but he seemes like the type of guy who is kind of clingy. My last boyfriend was really clingy, I mean he could not be without me for a second and that's why I broke up with him. He and I came close to having sex one time, but we didn't because we didn't have enough time to. The guy I like now is really cute and really funny and I don't want to hurt him, but I really want to have sex with him but not have a very close relationship so does anyone have any advice for me?
TheSavage
Apr 13, 2007, 06:18 PM
What's the hurry ? You have lots of time to grow up and lots to learn about yourself and boys first. -- Savage
alkalineangel
Apr 13, 2007, 06:20 PM
Do you know what you could get yourself into? You are far too young. Wait a while, your first time should be something meaningful with a person you truly love..
TheSavage
Apr 13, 2007, 06:24 PM
Please read this also
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/im-fourteen-know-if-im-pregnant-75598.html?highlight=pregnent+14
And if you like I will find you a 100 more just like it -- Savage
robertsqueen
Apr 13, 2007, 07:18 PM
You need to take a step back. You are only 14 years old.. what are you doing thinking about having sexual intercourse? I didn't lose my virginity until I was nineteen and even then I still regretted it. Plus sex isn't all its cracked up to be, and it will mean nothing if you don't make love to someone that you are in love with. When I had sex it was messy and hurt a lot. I thought I loved the guy,, but I was wrong. I compare that to when I first made love with my husband and nothing can compare it was a wonderful experence.
Are you ready for the consequences that sexual intercourse carries. Are you ready to get up at 3 in the morning to take care of a screaming baby... or to not have fun nights out with your friends because you have a responsibility. Are you ready to take the chance of catching an STD? These are all things that you need to consider before deciding to have sex,beucase at 14 one hour of passion... isn't worth a lifetime of regret.
Fr_Chuck
Apr 13, 2007, 07:43 PM
Yes, at 14 kissing him is a way to show you really like him, and spending time with him, There is plenty of time to wait and find someone that is speical and has been with you for a long time. You only have this choice once and at 14 it is not the time.
LisaB4657
Apr 13, 2007, 07:48 PM
Your virginity is one of the greatest gifts you can give to someone you love. Why would you waste it on someone you don't even want to spend much time with? It should be given to someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Do you really think so little of yourself that you'd throw this part of yourself away?
There are plenty of other things you can do to satisfy your urges without running the risk of becoming pregnant. Save the best part of yourself for someone you feel deserves it.
Lillian42
Apr 13, 2007, 08:02 PM
Don't do it you are to young, You have the rest of your life ahead of you. You don't want to take a chance in getting pregnant or getting stds or even worse aids. Go do kid stuff worry about sex when you are much older.
louie1
Apr 14, 2007, 11:05 AM
You need to take a step back. You are only 14 years old..what are you doing thinking about having sexual intercourse? I didn't lose my virginity until I was nineteen and even then I still regretted it. Plus sex isn't all its cracked up to be, and it will mean nothing if you don't make love to someone that you are in love with. When I had sex it was messy and hurt alot. I thought I loved the guy,,,but I was wrong. I compare that to when I first made love with my husband and nothing can compare it was a wonderful experence.
Are you ready for the consequences that sexual intercourse carries. Are you ready to get up at 3 in the morning to take care of a screaming baby...or to not have fun nights out with your friends becuase you have a responsiblity. Are you ready to take the chance of catching an STD? These are all things that you need to consider before deciding to have sex,beucase at 14 one hour of passion....isn't worth a lifetime of regret.
Could not have put this better myself, only two things to add;
1. Surely at 14 it is illegal
2. If you have to ask then you are not ready!