Hi. My name is Theresa. I recently started dating a guy and have already had sex with him. He just told me that he wants to take things slow. How do I know if he only wanted one thing or if he really does like me, and just wants to slow things down a little bit?

I would ask him straight up as to if he thinks that having sex is taking things slow. I don't think that since you have just started dating him that having sex is taking things slow.

If he really likes you and cares about you, he would let you know by communicating and wanting to do things with you other than sex.

Have u asked him this?

If he is only interested in sex you'll find out by not having any.

Exactly. Hold off from sexual behaviour and if he complains say your taking things slowly. It is possible that he was not ready for sex and that is actually what he means about things going to quickly. Or maybe he is not ready for a heavy relationship right now and wants to limit how much time you spend together. This doesn't always mean he is after one thing. On the other hand, some men suck and are only after one thing. Only you can tell. You need to find out exactly what he means. Ask him if this mean he will be seeing other people, if you will be seeing each other less or if he just feels pressured. You need to listen to what he has to say and decide if you are happy with what he wants, because if you are not then you need to discus this with him before somebody gets hurt.

Ask him straight up!