There is a guy who I think is cute. We have never talked but we work at the same place. I get the feeling that he is very shy. Very. I've only seen him speak to one person at work and he gave a one-word answer. Then again, sometimes I see him talking on the phone. Maybe he has a girlfriend? He absolutely will not make eye contact with me but if by chance he does he immediately looks away, with no time for me to give a smile. So the first time I walked past him today he was looking at the newspaper and I looked at him and noticed he was watching me from the side of his eye. I could be wrong but that's the impression I got. Then a few hours later he was walking outside on his break, right as I got off work. He was walking towards the door, maybe a few yards away, as I walked out the door. Upon seeing that I was coming his way-the direction to my car-he suddenly stepped off the sidewalk and headed east instead of north. I'm beyond confused.

I know he was going to go inside but as soon as he saw me outside he heads in a completely different direction of where he was headed, acting like he had to go over THERE.

Okay, be honest (and I would really appreciate the point of view from a guy ), but what could be reasons for avoiding me so much? Sometimes I think he looks at me when I'm not at h-but maybe that's just wishful thinking. I haven't noticed him avoiding others. What if I make him uncomfortable? Yesterday he avoided walking past me too but more subtle. He's not the classic cute so maybe he's not used to girls noticing him? Or is he super duper shy and thinks I'm cute? Or, could his whole not walking past me thing be him showing me he's not interested?

Thoughts?

Thanks!

Either take the direct approach and ask him or quite speculating, presuming and assuming or guessing why a guy does what he does. It may be a simple as he doesn't mix romance with work. Or you misreading him.

Maybe he does have a girlfriend....or WIFE....or boyfriend!!!!!!!!!! Never know, or you creep him out!

Why don't YOU say hi, and see what happens?

Appears that you are creeping him out. He is avoiding you at all costs.

Start saying hi once in a while, with his name if you know it, and do it in passing so he's not on the spot.
How would we strangers know what he's thinking? There are no rules or handbooks about the gazillion reasons people are the way they are.
Not wanting to sound mean, but you sound 12 years old.

He could have wife, girlfriend and boyfriend, This is as wild world we live in.

He does not make eye contract and avoids you? Souns like he is not interested or does not notice you. But who knows.

Why not do something, like walk over and talk to him?

Start saying hi once in a while, with his name if you know it, and do it in passing so he's not on the spot.
How would we strangers know what he's thinking? There are no rules or handbooks about the gazillion reasons people are the way they are.
Not wanting to sound mean, but you sound 12 years old.

Not to offend you, but you sound like a .

Ahhhh the picture became much clearer as to why he doesn't want to speak to you. You know some people are very unattractive on the inside, and that's not a good place to be unattractive. Kudos to this young man for making a good choice.


Not to offend you, but you sound like a .

Not to offend you, but you sound like a .

I agree with Oliver2011... this sort of answers speaks volumes. And its become really clear why he is avoiding you. We only had to guess before. joypulv posted a very correct and very rational response to your question. If you responded like this to that answer... I can imagine the other things you have snide, sarcastic or just pure mean answers to. People see this... reputations get around... I'd rather go out with a plain woman with a pleasing personality, than a drop dead beautiful one that has a bat attitude. There are a LOT of other guys that think that way as well.

Take a look at how many handsome guys you see with women that aren't nearly as attractive. You can be sure its not looks they were chasing... but the personality that won their hearts.

And well... the not very attractive people with bad attitudes... tend to end up with partners just like them because nobody else gives them the time of day.


Food for thought. From a guy that's been a legal adult for the last 37 years. Its never too late to review your life and make changes.

Not to offend you, but you sound like a .
You are lucky yiu didn't take your comment any further. Learn some respect for our adult members.

The epithet was written out, I'm sure, and removed by the auto-censor. Would love to know what it was!

I'll take Childish and Inappropriate Responses for $800 Alex.