All right so. I'm a girl I'm homeschooled so I don't get to see boys a lot. With that I fall in love with guys quickly. I like three guys. Problem is. Ones 18 one is 11 and one is 16.
The 11 and 16 year olds are my cousins. Dom and John. They are nice guys honestly. I talk to Dom more then John. Jam the 18 year old I met at dance when he came to play a male role in the ballet. On a 100% scale let's put it this way.
10% jam
80% Dom
20% John.
I'm 13 and well I'm really confused.

Your cousins are out of the question because they are your cousins​. The 18 year old is out of the question because you are 13.

Your cousins are out of the question because they are your cousins​. The 18 year old is out of the question because you are 13.
It's like for me I'm like " I know it's wrong to like Dom and John but I can't help it." And I wouldn't feel so careless and carefree about it if it wasn't Legal where I live I just ugh.

You should share your feelings with your parents and see how they respond.

You are 13. Too young to date either the 18 year old OR the 16 year old.

Heck, you are 13. You are too young to date. I don't allow my 13 year old to date and he sure as heck wouldn't be allowed to date his cousins.

The 18 year old is out of the question, you are a child. The 11 year old is more of a child than you and he's your cousin. The 16 year old is out of the question as well.
I think because you don't see boys you are more curious than anything. These are crushes that need not be acted on. You'll get over it.

The 18 year old is out of the question, you are a child. The 11 year old is more of a child than you and he's your cousin. The 16 year old is out of the question as well.
I think because you don't see boys you are more curious than anything. These are crushes that need not be acted on. You'll get over it.
Well I just got to face time with The 11 year old and we had so much fun. I kind of hinted that I liked him but he didn't seem to notice the hints of the fact I like him. Haven't talked to The 18 nor 16 year old for awhile.

The 11 year old didn't get the hint because he is 11. Most 11 year old boys aren't into girls yet.

The 11 year old is way too young. He is not thinking about whether you like him or not. He also knows you're his cousin and it's probably gross to him.
Leave him alone.

The 11 year old is way too young. He is not thinking about whether you like him or not. He also knows you're his cousin and it's probably gross to him.
Leave him alone.
I know it's wrong I know it is and there will be no dating betwee us ever. What I'm having trouble is controlling my emotions. Like keeping myself from blurting out that I like him. I need to figure out how to do that... but I just can't

Last post at 12:43 EDST. If this "child" is in the US, the earliest it could be assuming Continental US, would be 9:43 pm. So questions come to mind.

1) Why is this "child" on the Internet this late?
2) Where are the parents (which could sum up the whole problem)?
3) Is this actually a child? Sorry, I'm skeptical.

Last post at 12:43 EDST. If this "child" is in the US, the earliest it could be assuming Continental US, would be 9:43 pm. So questions come to mind.

1) Why is this "child" on the Internet this late?
2) Where are the parents (which could sum up the whole problem)?
3) Is this actually a child? Sorry, I'm skeptical.
Oh oh I forgot to mention.
My cousins live in Hawaii so it was like 6:43 over there.
Hanging out.
Or if you meant me.
My mom knew about me being up late.

This is going into my last question. I'm homeschooled so I'm not around boys that often so when we ask male actors to come preform with us I get a huge crush on them. Having a crush on my cousins is so wrong I know but I do because I'm curious about boys. Is there a way to help this? Is there a way to try and make me less? I mean like I've dated a friend that was male but it didn't end well.. anyway to stop this curiosity?

At 13 you are a raging mess of hormones, this is quite normal.
As has been commented on earlier, you are far to young to form any meaningful romantic connections or even date.
Be a child for as long as you can and enjoy life.

This is often a normal event at your age. Try to read more about it, read what other teens are going though.

You are immature. You need to understand that not everything you think needs to be said. Maybe after making a fool of yourself a few times, you will learn.
Think twice before you speak. Ask yourself what good it would do for you to say something.

How convenient. Not buying it.


Oh oh I forgot to mention.
My cousins live in Hawaii so it was like 6:43 over there.
Hanging out.
Or if you meant me.
My mom knew about me being up late.

Not buying it.

I would like to know why you are being home schooled. Is it due to some sort of problem your parents have with schools, or schools and religion, or learning difficulties that weren't addressed in public schools?

While home schooling has its advantages for certain situations, has the idea of being in a regular school ever been brought up? Have you asked about going to school?

While you may be involved in activities, outside your home, you may be missing out on simply socializing, making friends, and growing up with peers your own age. Supervised activities at school are a great way to meet people. I don't know if you are getting enough social stimulation through being with others your own age.

Your focus/obsession with two cousins, and a boy who is a legal man now, is to me, a sign of you jumping into waters that you are not yet ready to swim in.

Try to think beyond the boys, and think instead of perhaps discussing ways where you can learn more social skills, among people your own age, and develop friendships first. All of the socializing you do helps you to mature, and recognize and realize what is acceptable behavior among peers your own age.

I think you spend too much time on the computer, because you don't spend enough time with kids your own age instead.

Your feelings are very normal for your age, it's called puberty. The best way to learn to control yourself during this intense time is think before you act or speak, and talk to your mom about what you are feeling.

We ALL go through this period at about your age, so she will know best how to help you through it the RIGHT way.

Do you have older sisters?

You are way to young to be thinking this stuff.
I have to ask have you ever had any male friends? (JUST Friends) Or do you feel like you have to go one step further than just friends with guys?
If so This may be a something you should see a counselor for.
There are many reasons girls go through this. Try to identify with yourself the real cause behind it.
What are you really looking for and why.
Talk to a adult or professional you are able to talk openly too.
Also there may be support groups available for others your age going through the same thing's.
Believe me you are not in love with any of them, It is out of control hormones not love. When you are grown you will look back and know I am right.
I am a 45 year old mother of 2 girls and I have fostered 3 other girls. I grew up in a large all girl family, I have lots of advice so if you need to talk I'm available.

Last post at 12:43 EDST. If this "child" is in the US, the earliest it could be assuming Continental US, would be 9:43 pm. So questions come to mind.

1) Why is this "child" on the Internet this late?
2) Where are the parents (which could sum up the whole problem)?
3) Is this actually a child? Sorry, I'm skeptical.

I'm with Oliver. I can't quite believe this one.

I'm guessing it's why he/she hasn't been back. We do get trolls on here from time to time.


I'm with Oliver. I can't quite believe this one.

I'm guessing it's why he/she hasn't been back. We do get trolls on here from time to time.

The more she added in the beginning, the more skeptical I became... especially after the cousin was in Hawaii? Oh my LOL

I would like to know why you are being home schooled. Is it due to some sort of problem your parents have with schools, or schools and religion, or learning difficulties that weren't addressed in public schools?

While home schooling has its advantages for certain situations, has the idea of being in a regular school ever been brought up? Have you asked about going to school?

While you may be involved in activities, outside your home, you may be missing out on simply socializing, making friends, and growing up with peers your own age. Supervised activities at school are a great way to meet people. I don't know if you are getting enough social stimulation through being with others your own age.

Your focus/obsession with two cousins, and a boy who is a legal man now, is to me, a sign of you jumping into waters that you are not yet ready to swim in.

Try to think beyond the boys, and think instead of perhaps discussing ways where you can learn more social skills, among people your own age, and develop friendships first. All of the socializing you do helps you to mature, and recognize and realize what is acceptable behavior among peers your own age.

I think you spend too much time on the computer, because you don't spend enough time with kids your own age instead.
I started homeschooling because let's cut it short my last year in public school I was minulated and bullied because I'm quirky and well a bigger girl- sorry off topic XD. I do ballet 6 days a week in a class of full on girls. I only see the guys a few days a week. I really can't do anything because 1 the 18 year old has a girlfriend I'm actually friends with and the other guys are gay so no problem with that. With my cousins I know it's wrong by far wrong I want to act but I know It will NOT end well on my part so I just let it go. Figure I can have more boyfriends that are fictional then my cousins. Ever since 1st grade I've been a little boy crazy. I have slightly learned to control myself which I'm thankful I can do that. What I think happened when I posted the comment was a one day crush thing. Actually I don't spend time with kids my own age I spend time with kids younger then me haha.


The more she added in the beginning, the more skeptical I became... especially after the cousin was in Hawaii? Oh my LOL
Well okay first of all my cousins are in Hawaii because they live there because they are flipping military thanks :)

You're all over the place.

Your 11 year old cousin is in the military?

I'm still not buying it.

You're all over the place.

Your 11 year old cousin is in the military?

I'm still not buying it.


I get get that a lot the first part and no I don't mean that you know what- never mind lets just pretend this didn't happen.
Because after a few days I realized it was a one day crush kind of thing- make sense? Like the 18 year olds hair was pretty good looking that day which started a small crush and it was literally a one day crush. My cousins. It isn't a big deal because I'm not stupid. Besides I'm already dating My mutant turtle ( also known as my fictional boyfriend haha)

Quite a vivid imagination you have, and somewhat understandable since socializing with others of your age, both boys, and girls seems to be limited. At least you recognize that you should think before you act on feelings that may be strong at first, but fade after a time.

That's not a bad thing.