Don't you ever wish that you had that "sixth sense" to communicate with deceased loved ones? My grandmother(my mom's mom) whom I was very very close to, came to visit us in Las Vegas, Nevada for the weekend for my sisters birthday had passed away that weekend due to a heart attack. She was the most sweetest, caring, most wonderful women in the world and was loved by so many. She was only 57 and I was only 9. My grandfather (my dads dad) who was one of the best men around, always considerate, caring, loving, trustworhty, just a great person, passed away while visiting my dad in Las Vegas, Nevada. My dad was driving by the hospital where my grandmother died and. He had pointed out "That is where Pricilla (my g-ma)was taken when she had her heart attack and passed away." After he said that he looked in the rearveiw mirror to look at my grandpa and he looked like he was sleeping so my dad kept calling out to him, but he wouldn't respond. So my dad pulled over and had to perform CPR on him for 15 minutes. THen the ambulance arrived (suprisingly took 15 minutes when they were in front of the hospital) and he was taken in where he was announced DOA (dead on arrival). He also died of a heart attack. I was 12. Is it weird that they both passed away in sort of the same area and the same way? I don't know... well back to the whole "dont you ever wish". I wish I had that sixth sense to talk to them to know that they are around me, that they are still there. Their deaths were so long ago that I can barely even remember them. I remember bits and pieces, but that's it. Don't you all hate how you can't remember everything that you want to? I once had a dream that my grandmother called me and told me that she misses me and that I have grown up so much. Does that mean she actually tried to contact me or was that just a dream I was having because I have been thinking about them and missing them. Do you think maybe I had that dream because I wanted to have that dream? Or do you really think she was trying to contact me? Just thinking out loud (well typing out loud)...

That's a good one! Typing out loud! :)

I have a couple of stories for you.

When I was in the fourth grade my mother's mom passed away on the day that I registered for school. She was such an incredible person and meant the world to me! I will never forget that day.

Well, not long after her funeral, I kept complaining to my mother that my room was way too bright at night when I was trying to go to sleep. My mother tried to solve the problem by putting up really heavy curtains and making sure that they were shut when I was trying to sleep. Nope. Didn't help at all. My room was still too bright! My mother and I were sure that it was her mom watching over me.

When I was in the fifth grade, my mother's sister became gravely ill and was hospitalized. One time, when my mother went to visit her sister in the hospital, they could both, very strongly feel the presence of their mother in the room. Not too many days after that, my aunt died.

So, were these the experiences of the living feeling the loving, watchful presence of the dead? I think so. :)

I think if I felt them close by at least once or see their spirits once, I could get some closure of them you know?

Remember, that when this event concerning the brightness of my room happened to me, that I was a child. I was also not okay as a child because I grew up in a home where an older sibling of mine absolutely hated me and did things to me that demonstrated that. Perhaps my grandmother came around after her death, to show me that I was going to be okay and that there was hope in the things that were to come. Perhaps you did not need the help of your loved ones once they had died. I don't know. It is possible that some of us might have more of a predisposition to feel the presence of those who are deceased. I don't really know.

One occasion that I forgot about in my previous post, was at about the same time that the brightness event occurred. And, that was when I awoke in the middle of the night and saw a bright being or a being of light, kneeling and praying on the floor in my bedroom. It was all white. I perceived it to be an angel.

I believe that children are more aware of things that we might call paranormal than what adults are. For that matter, in the awareness of a lot of things. I think that it is for their protection. I still have occasions where I can feel the presence of someone, but I know that it is not one of my parents or even their parents.

For me, closure is knowing that the deceased relatives whom I knew personally, did their best in life and in knowing that they are no longer enduring the pains that we all experience in this life. And, that I will see them again someday.

God does not waste anything. When we think that something is gone forever, it has only become something else. Theory of relativity.

I'm going through a tough time (I'm sure you figured that out with my millions of posts) ever since I start college everything has gone wrong. Besides that crime thing, a lot of things have gone wrong, basically EVERYTHING has gone wrong for us. Like you said you think your came around to show you that everything was going to be okay, well with my tough year I would want some sort of "sign" that this "badluck" of mine will pass and that I will be okay. Like maybe seeing my deceased relatives. Does that make sense?

Let's see... Here are a few things I have observed that have gone right with your life in just the past week or so, and somewhat beyond that:

You have a fiancée and both of you are in love with each other.

You have joined this site and you have given out some great advice to others, as well as have been willing to listen to and assimilate the advise that others have given to you.

In your description of yourself in your profile, you are very open about who and what you are. You describe some great attributes about yourself - state swimmer, making the effort to go to college, open to the opportunity possibilities that lay before you as far as a career, you try to be optimistic, you love working out and feeling healthy and being healthy, etc.

You are willing to make changes in your life for the betterment of yourself and others.

You have already overcome some bad things in your life that you were doing.

You are a risk taker. We don't move forward unless we take risks.

You also have a tendency to be obsessive-compulsive. I am the same way. And, I don't mean it in a way like it is some sort of mental disorder. But, rather like being absorbed with and having a passion for something. Being obsessive-compulsive is not necessarily a bad thing. It is how you use it that counts. After all, just think what we would be missing as part of the enjoyment in life if some of the great composers like J.S. Bach, Beethoven, Chopin and Mozart had not felt the obsession and compulsion to write the music that they did. And, we could also name many great scientists, writers, explorers, etc. who have greatly benefited the world in which we live by their discoveries, insights and examples that they have set for us.

You are moving forward in your life. No matter what you do in life, if you are going to succeed at the things that you want to do by taking the steps and risks necessary to achieve those things, you are going to fail time and time again. It's how you deal with and learn from those failures (things that go wrong) that shape what kind of person you are.

Like I said above, I was a child... When I was a child, I could not figure out the solutions to many of my problems. My parents, loving and caring as they were, also had problems dealing with the sibling who was hurting me in many ways. Being a child, my friends could not help me with most of my problems, they had their own ones that they needed help with too! My encounters with at least one deceased relative at that time in my life was probably necessary as part of my support system. I have not had any encounters with deceased loved ones since I was a child.

As an adult, you already have many spirits who are helping you. It's just that they are still in their physical bodies. You may want to see or feel the presence of those that have gone before you, but they may know that their presence is not needed right now because you are getting the help that you need. As a parent, and as most parents are, I would want my children to learn to be self-sufficient enough so that they can take care of themselves.

Remember what I wrote in the post above, "For me, closure is knowing that the deceased relatives whom I knew personally, did their best in life and in knowing that they are no longer enduring the pains that we all experience in this life. And, that I will see them again someday." Perhaps it is helpful to you?

One time, when I was in junior high school, I was really having problems understanding some things concerning Christian beliefs and the Bible. Don't remember exactly what my questions were. But, I do remember that when I asked my mom about them, she said "God doesn't expect us to understand everything, but to just have faith." I remember that her answer set me at ease.

I do not believe in luck. If one continually walks by faith and trusts in the Lord, how could there be such a thing as luck?

By the way, I have a daughter who lives in California. One time when she came back to visit some years ago, we went out to a restaurant and she was showing me some pictures of things where she was living. At the revealing of one of the pictures to me she said, "And, this is me sky diving at 3,000 feet in the air!" The other sky diver had taken the picture of her as they were both descending. Well, I got to tell you, she had one up on me then!

Thank you. You are very understanding, very wise, and I love getting answers from you! You explain so much that I do not even think of or consider. I never thought of myself as much of a risk taker, more of I do "dumb" things and then soon learn to regret. Obviously I have many regrets right now, but you are right, I failed, and all I can do now is learn from everything that I messed up on or things that have gone wrong. Sometimes it gets so frustrating when it seems everything goes so very wrong, and all I want to do is get up and walk away from it and never look back. Like I have said before, I have grown up in a very secure lifestyle and obviously it has not done very well with me. I do not blame my parents, they taught me well and did what they thought was best for me and I love them for that. As you said I already have many spirits helping me, and you are right. I have family and friends who keep picking me up when I fall telling me everything will be okay and they will make sure nothing bad happens to me. It is just when I get frustrated, scared, and confused, it is hard to believe that they think they have the "power" to keep anything bad from happening to me. I sit there and think "oh yeah well how are you going to keep me out of prison?" or "Oh yeah how are you going to fix my health?" things like that and that is where I start doubting myself and others. I know Ishould not do that, it only makes situations worse. I used to be the one people would come to for advice or help or even reassurance, and now I doubt myself very much. This has just been a very hard nine months and I am hoping it will get better very very soon.

"For me, closure is knowing that the deceased relatives whom I knew personally, did their best in life and in knowing that they are no longer enduring the pains that we all experience in this life. And, that I will see them again someday."

That has been helpful to me. It has been helpful in more ways then one. Although I do figure this is a chapter in my life where I am going to have to focus on one day at a time, and not too much on what will happen to me tomorrow or what has happened in the past. I am still scared about what will happen to me, but I figure I will be okay in the end... Thank you for your post! It helps me out more than you know. Take care.

:) Hey, bless your heart and thank you too! It helps me with my own problems by trying to help others with those they might have.

I don't know how wise I am. I have done plenty of stupid things in my own life. But, making those choices and then mistakes has taught me many things. I am a much better person because of the things that I have learned.

Another of your good skills is writing. Thoughts come to you very quickly and easily.

Do you keep a personal journal or diary? If not, you might want to do that. Does not have to be in writing on paper. But, when we do write things out by hand using a pen or pencil, it forces us to slow down our thoughts and be truly reflective and thoughtful in what we write.

I knew a woman in her nineties who kept a diary for every day of her life since an early age. She has passed away, now. And, I am sure that her relatives love and cherish being able to read what she has written concerning things in her personal life as well as her family. What a keepsake!

I am going to write out my personal history and reflections for as far back as I can remember.

Something that has helped me, I am going to share with you. They are ways to look at life and situations. I learned them from life and a couple of people who were dear to me.

First, from myself and my Christian upbringing - Why are we in the world? To love and serve God in our hearts and minds and in everything that we do.

The ones next are things that I had never thought of or considered.

From a dear friend who is very wise - Life is about choices, cost and benefit. And, she wasn't speaking about the cost and benefit in terms of dollars and cents. It was about making choices and what it is going to cost in terms of time, maybe money, learning, effort, etc. and how those choices would benefit myself and/or others.

From a Catholic Priest friend of mine who had prostate cancer when I was telling him how sorry to learn that he had cancer. - He said, "You deal with the cards you have been dealt." He meant that some things in life come to us not by our own choice, but are placed before us to challenge us, help us to learn and grow in our Faith.

So, to sum it up, for me life is about loving and serving God, making choices based on the cost and benefit, and dealing with the cards I have been dealt.

I just thought of another thing that the Priest would say frequently that I really liked. And, that was "Ever onward, ever upward!"

Once again, I love reading your answers! They really do make me feel better, even if it is just for that time being. That is a great idea about the diary/journal. I have a few from a couple years back, but I think I will start writing in them again.

"Ever onward, ever upward!"


I like that and I will keep that in mind. Thank you for your great posts!

One time, a number of years ago, I suffered a job loss. I put inspirational saying that I found on the Internet all around the back door of my home Copied and pasted them into Word. Made the letters really big. Printed them out on thin card stock. Cut each saying out individually.

Lots of sites have inspirational sayings.

Bible Quotes: Best Bible Quotes (http://www.love-quotes-and-quotations.com/bible-quotes.html)

Inspirational Sayings - The Biggest Selection On The Web! (http://www.goal-setting-guide.com/quote-success.html)

Inspirational Quotes - Inspirational Quotations - Inspirational Sayings (http://quotations.home.worldnet.att.net/inspirational.html)

Pearls Of Wisdom Introduction to Inspirational Sayings & Quotes for Personal and Spiritual Growth (http://www.sapphyr.net/intro.htm)

The power performance program, a motivational and inspirational system for success and leadership. Great motivational stories, inspirational sayings, famous quotes and humorous quotations. (http://www.motivational-inspirational-corner.com/motivational_inspirational_quotes.html)

Once again, great advice and great answer! I am getting better with my family and fiancé who keep telling me I am not going to prison, and that everything that goes wrong will eventually go right. Also reading those weblinks you gave me lifted my spirits a little more. :) Thank you!