I have this male colleague which I've been working for some time. I've had this crush on him ever since he joined. Recently I noticed that he's often smiling at me (which he does to all-as he's quite a polite guy), touched me a few times & looks at my lips whenever we're talking, in fact he even did that today which was quite obvious! I'm unsure whether he likes me or it's just my mind playing games with me?

He's 4 years older than me, he's in a top management while I'm in middle management, both of us are of different race/religion and none of us at work knows much about his personal life. I've never did anything significant to show him that I've this crush on him, except jokingly asked when his turn to get married once, when he mentioned his friend who got married recently which he in return responded quite aggressively. Another thing that I did was ask his birthday randomly over lunch one day while we're with other colleagues which he again answered rather reluctant and strict way.

After this 2 incident, I've never asked him anything about his personal life and all I speak with him is just work related or some random jokes. So, does he like me? Or he's just a player? Or he's just plainly not interested with me?

He doesn't seem at all interested as you wish he was, nor is he returning your interest, so your crush is one way only and the reasons don't matter. Maybe he has a girl he is committed too, or just keeps his private life PRIVATE.

He isn't interested in you at all. He's trying to be professional.

It appears, from what you wrote, that he separates his personal life from his professional life.

Let it go. Workplace relationships rarely work.

He isn't interested in you at all. He's trying to be professional.

It appears, from what you wrote, that he separates his personal life from his professional life.

Let it go. Workplace relationships rarely work.


Thanks... I guess it's for the best too. I really don't want to spoil my career due to this. Thanks again,.

As far as watching your lips when you talk....I do that as well but it doesn't mean I am hot for everyone I talk to. I do it because it helps me better hear what they are saying. My hearing isn't terrible but it is not fantastic either and sometimes I find it difficult to understand/hear people...so I watch their mouth when they talk.