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thick_love_hun
Feb 16, 2015, 10:13 PM
My boyfriend and I want to have a baby we have been trying for 2 months and we have sex 4 or 5 times a week and when we do have sex its like 4 times in a day.. so I do not understand why the pregnancy test come out the be negative every time

DoulaLC
Feb 17, 2015, 03:07 AM
There is more to becoming pregnant than just good timing. It can take many months for some couples even with frequent sex.

In regard to pregnancy, there is no need for the amount of sex that you are having, although it normally wouldn't be a concern unless your partner happens to have a low sperm count to begin with and that wouldn't be known without testing.

Are you both in good health? Either of you taking any medications? Have you both made healthy lifestyle changes such as healthy diets and avoiding smoking if it pertains to either of you?

It would be a good idea to have a preconception visit with your doctor or gynecologist as well.

J_9
Feb 17, 2015, 08:37 AM
To begin, it can take the average healthy couple a year or more of actively trying before conception happens.

While I understand your want to become parents, by having relations so often, you are actually defeating the purpose. Women are born with a specific number of eggs, but a man's sperm takes time to regenerate. Having sex too often means that he is decreasing the number of sperm. You need to wait 24 to 36 hours for him to make more sperm.

Also, you have to properly track your ovulation. To do so means you have to take your basal body temperature daily for six months or more to create a pattern. You need to learn when you ovulate.

You can have sex frequently, but if you aren't ovulating, you won't get pregnant.

ScottGem
Feb 17, 2015, 09:33 AM
You are uptight after ONLY 2 months? Why are you even taking pregnancy tests? Did you miss a period? The time to take a test is 1-2 weeks AFTER you miss a period.

Pressuring yourself will not help. My wife and I tried for 6 YEARS. Around the end of the 6th year we decided to switch doctors. So my wife relaxed thinking nothing would happen until we spoke with the new doctor. Well, when we went for the first appt he told her she was pregnant. So stop worrying its much too soon to worry, just enjoy the process, but not too much as others have noted.

You can talk to your OB/Gyn about how to track when you are potentially the most fertile.

Fr_Chuck
Feb 18, 2015, 08:44 AM
First you are really having sex way too much at times that are not proper times.
Next you do not even test, till you are at least two week late from a period. So there is not even a reason to have tested yet.

Now it can take a couple over a year to get pregnant when they are timing things.
You will need to start doing medical testing for ovulation and then timing the sex properly