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danhow131
Apr 9, 2007, 03:38 PM
We have been dating for 2 years on April 15. We didn't have any kind of a fight and then all of a sudden a couple days ago, she said, I am just not happy anymore. We see each other like 6 days a week, talk on the phone like 5 times a day, usually I am the one calling her though. I think I am just being to clingy and to dependent on her, do you think she just needs a little time to think about herself and be on her own? She says she still loves me more then anyone else in the world and will never stop loving me. I know she still loves me to, not even a month ago, she said that I make her the happiest girl in the world and couldn't imagine her life without me. She says that she doesn't want to rush through anything and already feels like we are married. I think she feels like her young years are slipping away from her and she is afraid she will miss something if she stays in this relationship. I mean we already have our future planned out, we picked out our kids names, where we would get married and she said not even a month ago that if I asked her to marry me there is no way she would ever say no to me. It just seems like over the last couple of weeks she is always stressed out and she seems distant from me and her mom told her that maybe she should just be single right now. I just know that she still loves me so much, what do you think is happening, what should I expect and what should I do?

emopunk7
Jun 13, 2007, 08:02 AM
It's no wonder she needs space and time... 6 days a week? Call 5 times a day? Oh no my friend. WRONG! Just give her space right now... If you have been clingy I don't think right now would be the best time to be clingy, again. Obviously that would push her away even more. You need to show her that you can be patient with no pressure towards her. And also, you need to let her miss you. Focus on other things while she is on the whole "break" thing. But never let her know that you are dying. Big turn off! I hope you get the idea...

Toyoboy
Jun 15, 2007, 12:09 PM
Ok this sounds exactly like my situation! Holy e! The number one mistake you made was seeing her almost every day- by doing this you were taking the spark out of your relationship with her and you nailed it head on when you said you were to clingy. I was seeing my ex girlfriend every day and she finally had enough of me too- my best advice is to cut off all communication with her and if she realizes what a nice guy you were and that she still loves you she will come back- it just takes time and that's the hardest part of it all. I know the pain you feel- we've been broken up for 2 months now after a close 2.5 year relationship but you know what every day gets a little better- there is light at the end of the tunnel. For now just keep yourself extremely busy with work, friends, and hobbies and whatever you do don't talk to her- she has to come back on her own- that means NO TEXTING, EMAIL, OR IM too. Good luck and keep looking forward, not at all the memories.
Good luck bro!

Andreas_111
Jun 16, 2007, 04:53 AM
Don't worry if she loves you so she will be soon running after you!!