My fiance' is always finding things to make it look like I am cheating on him or going behind his back and talking to other men or people and I am not. He goes through my emails and Facebook, text messages, and what ever else he can. I do not mind but it has gotten to the point of now I am cheating because I am getting spam mail from dating sites. I never have signed up for anything like that but I can not convince him of this because it is in the email so it is true. And if someone uses my phone and texts someone and there is not a name on the text just a number well that was me texting them and god forbid if they say anything personal. I have never given him reason for this behavior and do not plan on it, but his past has. Sometimes it makes me sad to think that we may not be able to get through this. I love him very much but the fighting is getting worse as we go. Please help me what do I do??

This is a very dysfunctional relationship. Love is based on trust and understanding. He doesn't trust you or understand you, therefore he doesn't love you. This will never last as it is completely unhealthy. Drop him like a hot potato and find someone who does love and trust you.

I agree with you because who likes to be called a liar, and is constantly under intense scrutiny. Yes this a dysfunctional relationship, and when you are tired of this, you will leave it and this unhealthy individual to sort out his own mess.

Seldom does such extreme behavior get better without years of help, and life will be miserable until then. Who needs that when a better, healthier love experience can be found? Be also aware that this unhealthy partner will make you as unhealthy as he is the longer you put up with this behavior.