I have been going out with this guy for a year, we are both 22, things started quite well but as the relationship went past 6 months we started having a lot of arguments. He does not like to go out and we only live 15 minutes apart by car so it is quite close and spend about two to three hours a week only together since he always arrives late then he leaves early because he says he is too tired. He also does some really selfish things, like for example on Christmas Eve I asked him at what time we were going to go out the next day(Christmas day) and he ignored me twice and I got pissed and asked him again and he said that he doesn't know what him and his family are going to do so I said that means we are not going out but he said that he did not mean that.

Then Christmas day arrived and he did not mention anything so at 6pm I messaged him and told him that he had to tell me what we are going to do and he said that it was too cold outside ( we usually hang out in the car so that would not be a big problem!). Then at about 10pm I messaged him and sarcastically said that he should be in bed because it is too cold and he said that he went out with his family! I got really really angry and told him that he should have at least told me and he said that he mentioned it the day before (while in reality he just said that they do not have any plans, so he could have gone out with me instead).

He does this quite often, he cancels plans because he says he is tired or he has to give me a time to go out for the next day and then he doesn't, then when I remind him he says that he forgot or that he was too tired and did not want to tell me no and piss me. The times we do go out he usually is tired and just lays in the car with his eyes closed, we barely touch or kiss recently.

I feel like our relationship is not working out and that I should end it, however, I feel that I would regret it later since compared to my exes (they hit me,dumped me for no reason and cheated on me) he is not that bad after all. I also asked him several times if he wanted to end the relationship because he does not seem to care and he says that he is sorry and that he does not want to end the relationship at all and that he cares about me. I feel that he is being too selfish but on the other hand he is a good guy (apart from being selfish he is OK, intelligent, treats his family well, got a degree and has a nice job). Is his behaviour unacceptable and do all relationships go through such rough path?

He could still care, and he probably is saying that because he doesnt know what else to say, but where do you really think this is going given his attitude towards you and what you both normally do?

I think, my dear, the writing is on the wall and you should heed it. There is something a lot better for you out there, and it seems to be, from how you explain quite well, your future with him is not in the cards. Brutal to say that, but that is what I get from your description of your relationship.

Is his behaviour unacceptable and do all relationships go through such rough path?

No and no. No marriage, no children, not even sharing an apartment. You are demanding attention he doesn't give and doesn't have to give, so leave! There is no 'unacceptable' rule here. You don't even say if YOU work or not. He's TIRED. Take him as he is or leave.

If you are so unhappy and unfulfilled then I fail to see the point. If talking changes nothing, I fail to see the point. I think finally having a good guy may have made you a bit more desperate to hold onto things while he does little to show he wants to hold on. Or maybe you are just more into this than he is. Maybe its many things but if you need more attention say so. Obviously you are not his first priority, so why is he yours?

If it's just not worth it anymore then be grateful for the year, and move on. Consider that maybe that's as good as it will get, and just take a break. You found him, and no doubt you will find another and be the wiser for it. Right now this doesn't seem to be the great match you thought it was, and that's okay, since it happens to every couple at one time or another, and things just fizzle out.

Stop chasing him so hard, make other plans for yourself, and see what happens. Up to you.

PS. Never ask a guy if he wants to break up! If you get to that point, you dump him with NO REGRETS!

PSS. Consider your past baggage has made you willing to accept less than you deserve, nice guy or not.