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kayjayles
Nov 29, 2014, 04:35 AM
I started liking this guy a few months ago, and we were so happy, we had so much in common, it's just like we were perfect and well made for each other.
A few weeks ago our final exams started and he became so stressed which angered me and we just started fighting at every opportunity, 2 weeks ago we broke up and said he was too immature and irresponsible for being in a relationship (after I told him I thought I was preggers) and he would rather just be friends.

Which is better right now because today he's going on holiday and he's going around South Africa until the 4th of Jan and I'm going on holiday from the 8th and coming back a week earlier than my parents so I can see him. So friends seems good but now I went to his house yesterday and we had sex 5times (cause he said he isn't going to see me in so long) does this mean he's going to want me back when he comes back once I've got my anger issues over, or was he using me

talaniman
Nov 29, 2014, 05:21 AM
What does having sex have to do with love? At a young age they can be confusing. I think because of lust you both used each others bodies, and the reasons just don't matter.

Jake2008
Nov 29, 2014, 06:21 AM
You are allowing yourself to be used. This 'relationship' is purely about sex. It is not about love, commitment, respect, getting to know each other. I wouldn't even say this is a friendship, which is should have been first, before you decided to have sex with him, in order to have a 'relationship'. The two are not synonymous.

It was good for a few months in your mind, and everything was 'perfect'. Then a little bit of reality set in, showing your 'relationship' to be without any kind of foundation. The arguing in an immature way, which means not being able to resolve differences, shows how young and inexperienced you are.

There are many different situations in a relationship where communication far exceeds the importance of sex. Take away the sex, and what have you got? Nothing. You again let him use you for sex because he is going to be gone so long. Really? Why would you do that.

I don't know if you are in high school, or college, but either way, you are in no way ready for any kind of relationship. And you are also careless thinking that you could even have been pregnant with this guy! Do you know anything about controlling your own reproduction by use of birth control?

And if he comes back to you, the relationship will remain as it was, when he left, which amounts to a hill of beans. And if you choose to continue to think that there is anything more, think again.

As long as you continue to make the choices you do, and allow yourself to be in the position you are in, and learn nothing from it, you are doomed to repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 29, 2014, 06:24 AM
It means he was horny and may figure it could be a little bit before he had sex again and you available.

It means, you are spreading your legs, for a man, and not even sure of his feelings for you.

Sex is not love, has almost nothing to do with it for many men.

You talk and know what each other thinks to know what he feels.

Homegirl 50
Nov 29, 2014, 08:16 AM
He might want to have sex with you again when he gets back but that's about it. He wants a "friends with benefits" relationship with you and I hope you have the sense not to fall for it.
And for goodness sakes when you jump into a relationship with someone, have the sense to use birth control so the pregnancy scare does not come up. You don't even know this guy well enough to be having unprotected sex with him, let alone reproducing with him.

catonsville
Nov 29, 2014, 10:26 AM
Oh, Hell Yes. You are an easy jump, so why wouldn't he want to get in the sack with you again? You are tooooo easy. Upgrade your morals and be careful you don't wind up being a momma before you have a real relationship.