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16charmed16
Nov 18, 2014, 09:23 AM
I am a 14 year old girl turning 15 in January and I'm dating a 17 year old guy who is turning 18 in April , is there any laws to say this is wrong because my dad keeps threatening to call the police and I don't want him to get in trouble

J_9
Nov 18, 2014, 09:26 AM
The laws depend on where you live. However, if your father says you cannot date, then you cannot date or your boyfriend can be legally charged with parental interference.

16charmed16
Nov 18, 2014, 09:33 AM
The laws depend on where you live. However, if your father says you cannot date, then you cannot date or your boyfriend can be legally charged with parental interference.

Live in England and my dad says I can date he's just really not happy about the fact he's 17

talaniman
Nov 18, 2014, 09:57 AM
No doubt your dad will make trouble for this fellow, AND YOU! No dad cares what the laws says when it comes to their 14, almost 15year old daughter!

J_9
Nov 18, 2014, 10:05 AM
Yes, your dad will make trouble and rightfully so. A 17 year old should have no interest in a 14 year old.

Chloe Edwards
Nov 18, 2014, 10:17 AM
A 17 years old person should NOT date a 14 years old girl. Just get out of this otherwise your dad can make a trouble. Enjoy life make friends around your age, it's time for to learn not for date my girl. Bless you !

ScottGem
Nov 18, 2014, 11:07 AM
At your ages, the age difference is outside the norm. While a 3+ difference would be nothing if you were both over 21, it makes a big difference now.

There are no laws that govern dating. However, you are under the age of consent and any sexual intimacy would be illegal. And that is what your dad is afraid. There is little a 17 yr old boy would see in a 14 yr old girl except to get in her pants. There are laws that give your parents control over you. And if dad tells him to stay away from you, he can get him in trouble if he doesn't.

You don't tell us how long you have known this boy or how long you have been in this relationship. What you need to do is a) convince your dad nothing sexual is or will be happening and b) convince him that your boyfriend really cares about you.

16charmed16
Nov 18, 2014, 11:30 AM
At your ages, the age difference is outside the norm. While a 3+ difference would be nothing if you were both over 21, it makes a big difference now.

There are no laws that govern dating. However, you are under the age of consent and any sexual intimacy would be illegal. And that is what your dad is afraid. There is little a 17 yr old boy would see in a 14 yr old girl except to get in her pants. There are laws that give your parents control over you. And if dad tells him to stay away from you, he can get him in trouble if he doesn't.

You don't tell us how long you have known this boy or how long you have been in this relationship. What you need to do is a) convince your dad nothing sexual is or will be happening and b) convince him that your boyfriend really cares about you.

We have been dateing for almost 3 months and nothing sexual has happened I haven't known him too long but I have known his parents ever since I was little , my mum trusts him and so does all her side of the family , however I think my dad is mainly upset one because of his age and two because it's something my mum has said is OK (separated parents)

ScottGem
Nov 18, 2014, 11:44 AM
3 months is not very long and I seriously doubt this relationship will last after his birthday or even yours. Like we have said your dad has experienced what it means to be a teenage boy and he knows that the prime motivator of the average 17 yr old is hormones.

16charmed16
Nov 18, 2014, 11:50 AM
3 months is not very long and I seriously doubt this relationship will last after his birthday or even yours. Like we have said your dad has experienced what it means to be a teenage boy and he knows that the prime motivator of the average 17 yr old is hormones.

I get what your saying but we have both been through a lot with our family's and some really bad times , but he kind of saved me from suicide and I helped him out of depression and things alon this lines , we have sat down and spoken about sexual accounts and he says that he respects my choice

talaniman
Nov 18, 2014, 11:58 AM
Don't even think your mom can stop your dad from making trouble for this soon to be MAN! It's not you who has to do the convincing, its HIM!

16charmed16
Nov 18, 2014, 12:02 PM
Don't even think your mom can stop your dad from making trouble for this soon to be MAN! It's not you who has to do the convincing, its HIM!
He has tried , we have a fairly long distance relationship and see each other every other weekend and on holidays. He made the effort to catch an hours buss drive just to come talk to my dad and my dad refused to speak with him

ScottGem
Nov 18, 2014, 01:08 PM
A relationship based on what you have gone through does not have a good foundation. While it may seem so, its not. Plus the long distance nature of the relationship is probably going to make it wear thin as well.

But the bottom line is going behind your dad's back is a recipe for trouble.

By the way, the fact that you have even discussed sexual intimacy at this point is worrisome. Despite what he has said about respecting your choice, he clearly wants it.

smoothy
Nov 18, 2014, 01:18 PM
Your dad if he is like most dads... will beat the snot of this "boyfriend" if he gets within reach of him. Because of the age difference alone.

As was mentioned.....EVERY boy from 12 to early 60's is after one thing...whats in your pants. the only differences are those older than they late 20's actually sees other aspects of the person rather than everything being the means to the end ( sex) those younger actually DO see everything as despite whatever they might try to say to the contrary.

Hate to break it to you, but even the nicest guys only have one thing on their mind at that age.