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SmileyG
Nov 17, 2014, 10:27 PM
I cannot take birth control and the man I was seeing lied to me about having had a vasectomy, it turns out he has a breeding fetish. Anyway due to my disability my periods are irregular but according to my doctor it does not effect fertility. Anyway I had been sleeping with this man 3 times a week for the past 2 months, no condoms. I finished my last period 3 weeks ago, we had sex that day and once since. About 2 weeks ago I started bleeding again and thought it was my period but it stopped a day later. Then last week I started having runny white discharge but I have no itching, odour or anything else. I am also having some issues with floating stool, sorry. And most days I cannot eat anything even though I am hungry. I did take a pregnancy test yesterday but it came back negative so I'm not sure what is going on here, any advice?

CravenMorhead
Nov 18, 2014, 08:37 AM
Dump his a$$. Seriously, do not pass go, do to collect $200, send him on his way and never look back. If you're not pregnant. If you are then get as much child support as you can from him. I would also look at contacting a lawyer, this could be seen as sexual assault by the right lawyer.

As for your period et al. Irregular periods are hard to work with when considering pregnancy. That could be break through bleeding or implantation. Could be pregnancy or stomach flu. I would take a test when your expect period should be (another week) and then two weeks after. This is a waiting game at this point.

Good Luck.

SmileyG
Nov 18, 2014, 09:36 AM
Dump his a$$. Seriously, do not pass go, do to collect $200, send him on his way and never look back. If you're not pregnant. If you are then get as much child support as you can from him. I would also look at contacting a lawyer, this could be seen as sexual assault by the right lawyer.

As for your period et al. Irregular periods are hard to work with when considering pregnancy. That could be break through bleeding or implantation. Could be pregnancy or stomach flu. I would take a test when your expect period should be (another week) and then two weeks after. This is a waiting game at this point.

Good Luck.

He hasn't spoken to me since he let me know(during sex) that he wasn't fixed.

This may sound dumb but I am so confused, I called the local sexual health line and they said a pregnancy test a week after having sex would be accurate, is that true?

To be honest I am terrified, I have a traumatic brain injury and from that I have cognitive problems, sensory problems and some behaviour problems. I am also dirt poor. He knew all this. I am angry and scared.

So I just want to clarify something, I should take a pregnancy test next week and then again 2 weeks later?

CravenMorhead
Nov 18, 2014, 10:00 AM
Not so much. You need time for a specific hormone, HCG, to build up in your system. There are some that can detect that early on, but not with reasonable reliability. If you read the box it will say 55% accurate 19 times out of 20, or some such. The best time would be two weeks after you missed your period, but having irregular periods makes things difficult because you cna't say when you period should start and even a general feeling of when you may have ovulated.

Yes, take a test in a week and in two weeks afters.

From this point on, don't like any penis in your vagina without a condom. If the person says no, then they leave. No questions asked.

Good luck. I feel for you and I am angry that this person took advantage of you.