I have asked multiple people close to me about this but it still hasn't helped much so I'm just looking for some thoughts & advice on the situation. My ex & I were together for over 7 months, things were going great for a majority of the relationship or so I thought! We spent plenty of time together during the week & maintained contact via FaceTime or texting when we weren't together, she was the first to say 'I love you' & I could see it in her eyes and feel it from how she said it; she truly meant it & meant it every time she said it from then on. But towards the end of the relationship she started getting really irritable when I'd ask her a question, she felt like she was becoming fairly distant at times when we were together by not being as intimate or affectionate, she started spending a decent amount of time when we were together texting her friends or browsing through Facebook/instagram. About a month ago we were talking via text & she told me she would talk to me in a little bit after she got done hanging out with her friend, later that evening out of nowhere she texted me saying that she was sorry/she could no longer do this (the relationship), so I called her & she was crying hysterically. We talked for well over an hour & I tried everything imaginable to talk and work things out with her because I truly love her & don't want anyone else. She told me she needed her space, she didn't want to see anyone else but she just needed to find herself, she told me she still loves me but she can't handle a relationship right now so I gave her the space she needed via not seeing each other/no contact. Then a couple weeks after the break up she started dating another guy which in turn made me have a complete meltdown, I was so angry about it because I was hopeful things would work out between us once she had her space & after her assuring me she wasn't going to see anyone else/couldn't have a relationship right now/just wanted to be single but then she does this? I am at a loss for words, my heart is still broken right now & no matter what I do I still think about her and love her very much. Any insight on why she did this is appreciated!

***Also- She was very assuring that she had never cheated on me or did anything behind my back. She still has our photos up on her social media sites & what not but the day she made her relationship with this other guy public via Facebook she blocked me & hasn't spoke a word to me.

Feelings, even intense ones can change very quickly, especially amongst young people. Yeah its sucks when we get dumped, and sucks even more when we have high hopes of a second chance that never happens, and even worse when they move on while we are still hoping!

You have no choice now but to I accept it was great awhile it lasted but for sure its over, and NO hope of starting again. Sucks but you have to move on now too.

How old are you both? First time you have been dumped? Leave her alone and stay off her Facebook! No Contact!!!

Not my first break up but the first one I actually cared about & loved. I'm 23 & she's 21, I have stayed off especially now since I'm blocked for no reason & haven't contacted her at all. i just don't understand why this happened so quickly?

I'm going to GUESS that it wasn't as quick as it appears to you. Many times when one person says they need space what is really happening is that they have already started to lose interest. And the reasons for losing interest usually fall into 2 categories: one is that the person being dumped is too clingy and needy (texting constantly is a biggie) and the other is that a new 'person of interest' has entered the picture. There's no reason to assume that she lied to you about the new guy, because she probably didn't know where it was going, just that her heart was going pitter pat. And all of a sudden, her feelings for you were out the door. She's 21! It's still fairly typical to change on a dime.
She did you a favor by breaking off all contact. There's nothing to discuss - she's got someone new. Nothing is going to change that, and dissecting what happened is meaningless. Go out with friends in groups and keep busy. You can grieve but don't stew over when she actually slept with him the first time and all that poison, or what was 'wrong' with you. It really isn't you! I constantly marvel at how any two people stay together.

I agree, it is almost never, that quick, you just did not see what was happeneing.

The term "I need space" often means it is over, I will add one to the you are too demanding, or I have found someone else, it could be, we tried, and I have just lost interest and want to find someone else.

Normally it is just a term used, to try and be nice, to tell the other person it is over. That way, there is no hard words, no fight, everyone pretends it is just temp. but as time goes, they never get back together.

Now, you do no contact, That is what we would have told her. You do not look at Facebook, do not text, do not call, just go on with your life and your friends.

I understand how you feel , just move on and you will find a nice girl one day.
It's common now with girls they just go on sale the following day after a break up they don't have any self respect left.