Mommy2girls
Oct 16, 2014, 08:08 PM
Ok, I have 2 daughters ages 26 and 20 and have been divorced about 10 years. Recently, my oldest daughter went through a divorce and got a new boyfriend and moved in with him, something that I taught against. She has recently begun seeing a counselor and told me that her father fondled her as a child.
While I had many problems with her father, I was totally shocked by this revelation and while I was totally supportive of her, I questioned the reliability of it to myself. That was until she showed me a texted conversation between her and her younger sister confirming that it happened to her also but she didn't want to bring it up because she was dealing with the past fine and it wouldn't change anything.
When I confronted my younger daughter about it her reaction was she was upset with her sister sharing this with a new boyfriend when she hadn't told her boyfriend of 4 years. My oldest daughter is seeing a counselor and confronted her father and wants nothing to do with him. My youngest daughter though wants to keep her relationship with her father.
I've tried and tried to get her to talk to me, her sister or a counselor but she refuses saying she is fine. I don't want to stress her out too much right now because she is in her first semester of nursing school and she doesn't need added stress that came about at absolutely no fault of hers but I also feel like it can't be healthy to keep up with the relationship with her father.
I don't know what to do. She wants everyone to just drop it because she says she has adjusted. She is a very well grounded girl with great responsibility , level headed and not wild. She's in the honor society at her college and has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 4 years but refuses to talk marriage until she gets her nursing degree.
What do I do to help her?
While I had many problems with her father, I was totally shocked by this revelation and while I was totally supportive of her, I questioned the reliability of it to myself. That was until she showed me a texted conversation between her and her younger sister confirming that it happened to her also but she didn't want to bring it up because she was dealing with the past fine and it wouldn't change anything.
When I confronted my younger daughter about it her reaction was she was upset with her sister sharing this with a new boyfriend when she hadn't told her boyfriend of 4 years. My oldest daughter is seeing a counselor and confronted her father and wants nothing to do with him. My youngest daughter though wants to keep her relationship with her father.
I've tried and tried to get her to talk to me, her sister or a counselor but she refuses saying she is fine. I don't want to stress her out too much right now because she is in her first semester of nursing school and she doesn't need added stress that came about at absolutely no fault of hers but I also feel like it can't be healthy to keep up with the relationship with her father.
I don't know what to do. She wants everyone to just drop it because she says she has adjusted. She is a very well grounded girl with great responsibility , level headed and not wild. She's in the honor society at her college and has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 4 years but refuses to talk marriage until she gets her nursing degree.
What do I do to help her?