kingla
Oct 7, 2014, 04:42 AM
Good day. I am 25 year old male she is 20. We have been dating for 2 years now and she still talks to her ex, whom she dated for 3 and a half years. They still text each other. She is claiming they are only friends but the guy wants her back and she told me herself. Whenever I told her it bothers me they stop for like a week or two then go back texting. She says the guy has now another girlfriend but whenever he wants to buy something for that girlfriend he always contacts her (my girlfriend). On her birthday I was away with my family they spoke on the phone for 4 hours straight. I didn't like it and told her she said "where were you to keep me busy?" I got angry and didn't say anything anymore.
Lately the guy asked to meet up with her. She asked me, I told her that it was her decision to make. She decided to go. Before she left she was looking really beautiful. I told her " u look stunning all this just to meet your friend?" She said "So that he regrets" I was shocked but didn't say anything. She went for 6 hours. When she came back I asked her why did she go she said "I wanted to go it has been a while that I have not see him". The following day she asks me again to go I told her "I will not stop you from going, you make the decision". She decided to go and she went at 5pm till 10.30 pm and I didn't like it, so we only spoke for a while because I was a bit angry. She went to the room.
The following day I went through her texts and she said to the guy that I was pissed at her and didn't want to talk to her. I didn't like it because that guy wasn't part of our relationship. I told her and she said sorry. She said I should not worry because nothing happened between them. She claims the guy has a girlfriend but whenever he wants to buy something for the girlfriend she asks my girlfriend. It annoys me!
When I saw this going on for long I decided to talk to one of my female friends and my ex. She told me it bothered her so I stopped. Now we are away from each other in a long distance relationship. He now calls her more than ever. She says sometimes she doesn't answer but only she knows if she is lying or not. We usually speak via WhatsApp and call each other sometimes. Yesterday we were speaking and she goes off without even saying a thing for a whole hour. When she comes back she says "Please don't be angry I was on the phone with my ex" so I told her you know that I would be angry yet you still talk to him? She says " what was I supposed to do ? Tell him to hang up? " I didn't say a thing just said OK!
This is the girl that I want for life I even told my parents about her. My whole family knows. I even learned her mother's tongue. I speak 4 languages, 2 from her country. I never cheated on any of my girlfriend, but I get the feeling she is taking me for granted and whenever she does her stupid things I get vulnerable and feel like it.
Please help
Lately the guy asked to meet up with her. She asked me, I told her that it was her decision to make. She decided to go. Before she left she was looking really beautiful. I told her " u look stunning all this just to meet your friend?" She said "So that he regrets" I was shocked but didn't say anything. She went for 6 hours. When she came back I asked her why did she go she said "I wanted to go it has been a while that I have not see him". The following day she asks me again to go I told her "I will not stop you from going, you make the decision". She decided to go and she went at 5pm till 10.30 pm and I didn't like it, so we only spoke for a while because I was a bit angry. She went to the room.
The following day I went through her texts and she said to the guy that I was pissed at her and didn't want to talk to her. I didn't like it because that guy wasn't part of our relationship. I told her and she said sorry. She said I should not worry because nothing happened between them. She claims the guy has a girlfriend but whenever he wants to buy something for the girlfriend she asks my girlfriend. It annoys me!
When I saw this going on for long I decided to talk to one of my female friends and my ex. She told me it bothered her so I stopped. Now we are away from each other in a long distance relationship. He now calls her more than ever. She says sometimes she doesn't answer but only she knows if she is lying or not. We usually speak via WhatsApp and call each other sometimes. Yesterday we were speaking and she goes off without even saying a thing for a whole hour. When she comes back she says "Please don't be angry I was on the phone with my ex" so I told her you know that I would be angry yet you still talk to him? She says " what was I supposed to do ? Tell him to hang up? " I didn't say a thing just said OK!
This is the girl that I want for life I even told my parents about her. My whole family knows. I even learned her mother's tongue. I speak 4 languages, 2 from her country. I never cheated on any of my girlfriend, but I get the feeling she is taking me for granted and whenever she does her stupid things I get vulnerable and feel like it.
Please help