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ashleyh8009
Sep 22, 2014, 07:17 PM
My boyfriend is literally with his friends from the moment he wakes up till the moment he goes to sleep. Which it wouldn't be so bad if he didn't bring them over EVERY time he comes to see me at my parents house, he's even brought them to my birthday dinner with my dad! Me and him had talked about getting a place together and then today he says "hey! why dont we all throw down on a place together!" so now I'm really stuck with his friends everyday forever. I just didn't know guys relationships were this extreme, I don't mind him hangin out with them even for a little bit everyday but its literally ALL day EVERY day... is this normal? What do I do?

teacherjenn4
Sep 22, 2014, 07:52 PM
You continue to date him so he must think it's OK to have his friends with him at all times. What do you do? Tell him you'd like time alone together and that you won't be moving in with him and his friends.

ashleyh8009
Sep 22, 2014, 08:01 PM
I must have forgot to add that I have confronted this issue on multiple occasions and he just brushes it off like I'm just a psycho girlfriend that demands all his attention when in reality I would just like a tiny bit of his attention because I mean I AM his girlfriend. But nothing ever changes no matter what I say. I've been with him for 4 almost 5 years and we use to spend time alone all the time, very rarely w anyone else. Its just within the past year things have changed. I guess he just don't want nothing to with me.. ill accept it and move on I guess.

Luck0rN0t
Sep 29, 2014, 10:53 PM
Maybe he is scared of too much time together/things getting too serious? Maybe he is trying to push you away and make you the "bad guy" by doing what he knows will drive you crazy until you say "enough" and leave, making him look like the victim? Tired of being "tied down"? Maybe he is not interested in females anymore? No, it's not normal to spend every waking moment with your friends, male or female. Healthy relationships require time away, to miss the other person and have things to talk about when you are together as well as spending time with just the two of you. Do you have any sort of intimate relationship with each other?

If you have already talked to him about it and nothing has changed, then chances are that it won't. If you continue to talk to someone who isn't listening/doesn't care or respond... take your feelings & needs into consideration, then it just becomes nagging you become the "annoying b!tch" everything and goes downhill from there. Does he have any friends that you feel comfortable enough to talk to that would give you an honest opinion of what's up with him? Do you feel like an outsider with them or like "one of the guys"?

Does he treat you like his girlfriend when he is with you and his friends are around?

talaniman
Sep 30, 2014, 04:17 AM
How old are you both, and what kind of jobs do you have?

Fr_Chuck
Sep 30, 2014, 05:10 AM
You don't accept it.

Stop seeing him, if he is with friends, require real dates, o just you and him and time with him, Some time in groups is OK, Also invite your friends to things also.

As for living in a group, nope, laugh at him and say seriously you are so funny at such a stupid idea.