Trufox
Sep 19, 2014, 02:09 AM
Hello, thank you for taking time to read this!
Personal info: We're both ~24 and students
As I rarely feel something warm or precious in a person, I was lucky enough to meet a girl who finally sparked some feelings in me. I met her at a party and we hit it off. I never thought I'd see her again, however a few days later I saw her again at a friends birthday.
I was oblivious to the fact that he (= my best friend) liked her. They have known each other for around a year, but she never had any romantic feelings towards him. He always told me he saw her as a beautiful person, and mainly as a friend.
Anyway, at my friends birthday we started chatting and we quickly became close. She led me to a secluded place and we started getting more intimate. Until I forgot her name that was! She didn't respond with anger, but with hugs and told me it didn't matter. However, I was mad at myself and went home. She went to my friend and left in tears.
A few days later we agreed to meet and talk things over. The evening before this day, she had a conversation with our mutual friend and the conclusion of that conversation was that it might not be best to see each other again. She was very emotional about that since she sees him as a beautiful person, but isn't interested in him. While he, our mutual friend, does have unwanted romantic feelings for her.
I went with her to a public park and started apologising for making her feel inadequate and unrespected. She laughed it off and wanted to apologize, but she couldn't clearly state a reason. She said that it's better for her to not see our friend again and in effect, me neither. I respect that. However I asked if she meant how she acted towards me that evening and she said she did. I answered that what I said that evening; that I liked her, I also meant. She did however deny that we we're intimate, and offered an explanation which didn't make sense.
The rest of the conversation was very open and somewhat emotional. We talked about regret and hardships of friendship and romance, and we talked about philosophy. Her body language was extremely open and she laughed and touched me frequently. The whole 3 hour conversation, however fun, was tainted by the decision to probably not see each other again.
I plan on contacting her next week. She did seem interested, in ways I've only seen in movies before, and it would be a shame to leave it on such a sour note. I do not believe our mutual friend would have too much trouble accepting further contact. He said he needs time to explore his unwanted feelings for her. He also said that he thinks she likes me.
I know I shouldn't make a big deal out of this. But I truly believe that her words were not proportionate to her behaviour. She does seem as interested in me as I am in her. However I'd like another opinion about this. What should I do? Should I truly not try and contact her again, or might it be worth it to pursue something more?
Personal info: We're both ~24 and students
As I rarely feel something warm or precious in a person, I was lucky enough to meet a girl who finally sparked some feelings in me. I met her at a party and we hit it off. I never thought I'd see her again, however a few days later I saw her again at a friends birthday.
I was oblivious to the fact that he (= my best friend) liked her. They have known each other for around a year, but she never had any romantic feelings towards him. He always told me he saw her as a beautiful person, and mainly as a friend.
Anyway, at my friends birthday we started chatting and we quickly became close. She led me to a secluded place and we started getting more intimate. Until I forgot her name that was! She didn't respond with anger, but with hugs and told me it didn't matter. However, I was mad at myself and went home. She went to my friend and left in tears.
A few days later we agreed to meet and talk things over. The evening before this day, she had a conversation with our mutual friend and the conclusion of that conversation was that it might not be best to see each other again. She was very emotional about that since she sees him as a beautiful person, but isn't interested in him. While he, our mutual friend, does have unwanted romantic feelings for her.
I went with her to a public park and started apologising for making her feel inadequate and unrespected. She laughed it off and wanted to apologize, but she couldn't clearly state a reason. She said that it's better for her to not see our friend again and in effect, me neither. I respect that. However I asked if she meant how she acted towards me that evening and she said she did. I answered that what I said that evening; that I liked her, I also meant. She did however deny that we we're intimate, and offered an explanation which didn't make sense.
The rest of the conversation was very open and somewhat emotional. We talked about regret and hardships of friendship and romance, and we talked about philosophy. Her body language was extremely open and she laughed and touched me frequently. The whole 3 hour conversation, however fun, was tainted by the decision to probably not see each other again.
I plan on contacting her next week. She did seem interested, in ways I've only seen in movies before, and it would be a shame to leave it on such a sour note. I do not believe our mutual friend would have too much trouble accepting further contact. He said he needs time to explore his unwanted feelings for her. He also said that he thinks she likes me.
I know I shouldn't make a big deal out of this. But I truly believe that her words were not proportionate to her behaviour. She does seem as interested in me as I am in her. However I'd like another opinion about this. What should I do? Should I truly not try and contact her again, or might it be worth it to pursue something more?