View Full Version : Kind of gross topic... farting
JLB87
Sep 11, 2014, 07:13 AM
As a newlywed (but we have lived together for 2 years), I have to ask this question both of other newlyweds and those married a long time.
It's a bit tasteless, but, do you fart around your spouse? I don't mean an occasional slip-up, but rather regularly?
My wife and I have ever since we started dating seriously. We dated in high school and did so then too. We're not gross about it, we don't do it in bed and throw the covers over the other's head or anything, but we both feel it's a natural function, and it isn't necessary to hold it in or run to the bathroom every time one sneaks out. The fact my wife has mild IBS and is a gassy person anyway, is part of it, so we just do it whenever if we're alone. We even make it fun, I'll tell her "good one" or something.
Obviously, during sex, or in the company of others, we keep it under control. It just seems weird that we have talked to other couples that have honestly never farted around each other, at least not knowingly.
smoothy
Sep 11, 2014, 07:15 AM
After you have been married long enough... you might even be in the bathroom while the other is taking a dump... a wizz... etc. Same with farting.
J_9
Sep 11, 2014, 07:19 AM
I have never passed gas in front of my husband. Never have after 23 years together and never will. While it may be a natural body function, I think it disgusting to do in front of others.
smoothy
Sep 11, 2014, 07:23 AM
I guess it's a guy thing.(we used to have a loudest fart contest at one employer I used to work for, so this was well after high school)..wife swears she never, ever farts.....even though she gets gas and bloating frequently (she complains about it when she does and gets a distented gut when it happens). Well, it goes someplace. And we know its not a burp when it does.
Its no worse than ..."honey come take a look, does it look like I have a yeast infection again". Apparently I have the better sense of smell because I have to sniff everything the wife thinks might have gone "off".
JLB87
Sep 11, 2014, 07:23 AM
Actually, smoothy, that has already happened. She has a thing where her morning coffee "kicks in" on weekends when I'm in the shower, and we only have one bathroom, so she has done that (#2 as well as #1) a few times.
I've done it to her once or twice as well, not a big deal to us.
As I said on my other post, we're ridiculously comfortable. Despite what I have read elsewhere, it hasn't hurt or sex or romantic life at all.
J_9
Sep 11, 2014, 07:24 AM
I don't know if it's a guy thing. My husband has never passed gas in front of me.
JLB87
Sep 11, 2014, 07:32 AM
I definitely get the reasons not to, and you're probably classier than we are, J_9, at least in private. In public we can keep it classy, too.
smoothy
Sep 11, 2014, 07:36 AM
I'm guessing its common for some... not common for others. And personal tolerances and threshholds. To me the most disgusting smell is puke. THough the smell of a large number of burned bodies ranks right up there..(yes I do actually know what that smells as well as looks like)
Though one very unfortunate experience with a lady I once dated might be the worst because that one actually burned itself into my memory and a couple decades later I can still smell it like it was yesterday.
Never saw her gain....both because she was completely mortified, and I could never get it out of my mind...but well.....I'm not going there so enough of that. But it didn't emminate from her digestive system.
Thankfully I've been spared the experience of a ripe corpse and hope to never deal with it... its supposed to be really,really bad.
I guess its all about perspective... and a lot is your upbringing as different things are more taboo in certain cultures than others.
Jake2008
Sep 11, 2014, 08:46 AM
If two consenting adults don't mind doing their business in front of each other, in the bathroom particularly, and they don't mind farting freely, in front of each other, I don't see it as a problem.
I've been married 38 years and have never farted in front of anyone, because it is disrespectful and rude behavior in my opinion. That includes my husband.
Him on the other hand swears he can fart the alphabet, and doesn't care who's listening (or suffering near by)...
odinn7
Sep 11, 2014, 08:52 AM
Better to bear the shame than to bear the pain.
I fart all the time and usually just get comments from my wife. I know she enjoys it...that's why I do it. I wouldn't want to deprive her.
CravenMorhead
Sep 11, 2014, 09:28 AM
There are many funny quips about this, The woman walking into her own apartment after a date just to let one rip, or "Powder her nose" in the washroom, or whatnot. The typical attitude is that women don't fart, and yes, I know that isn't true.
I have no shame. I had a office area with six cubicles to myself for a year and I had no problem just letting one rip, now I have cube mates and I am a little more discrete but I have no problem dusting my cube mates. I am not as bad as the dude that retired. Right now I try not to fart in front of my wife because of her morning sickness/nausea/GERD complications. She's got a much better nose than me and I might not pick up on a smell but she will. I don't want to turn her stomach and cause her to run for the bathroom. That being said she farts in front of me but it is more Whoops than anything. If it were up to her she wouldn't.
My first wife would queef, which is when air gets trapped in the vagina during sex and escapes with a fart like noise, during sex on occasion and only in a specific position, I think it was downward facing doggystyle. It caused a giggle the first couple times and then it didn't bother us. It happens so what can you do? Just continue plugging away...
In the end it is a matter of your own comfort level and respect for the comfort level of those around you. There are certain conditions, like my wife's morning sickness or her lack of a gallbladder, that will make you more or less sensitive.
JLB87
Sep 11, 2014, 10:54 AM
It is about comfort level. We went out in high school and were super comfortable then, too. We'd be sitting there on the couch and she'd just say "be back, gotta go poop" and walk off to the bathroom like it was no big deal. It took me longer to warm up to that idea than her, really.
It is about comfort level. We went out in high school and were super comfortable then, too. We'd be sitting there on the couch and she'd just say "be back, gotta go poop" and walk off to the bathroom like it was no big deal. It took me longer to warm up to that idea than her, really.
Fr_Chuck
Sep 12, 2014, 06:41 AM
It is a culture thing also, passing gas, is just a body function, and here in China, people just do it, and don't even say excuse me, it is just part of nature and human bodies.
It is culture and society that has deemed it gross.
As the other, one bathroom, rushing to get ready, yes, shower, use toilet at same time, all part of married life.