Im going through a Divorce with my husband. We have split over 5 months ago
We are still living together and I have tried to get him to agree days when he is responsible for the children (4&7). Like access agreement for weekends etc to get the children used the split.
He will not commit to days with the children and when he does he only wants to take 1 at a time so that I can not go out socially with friends etc...
He is doing this so prevent me from going out as he believes that I have another man and want to meet up for ***.

He has been going out from work 3-4 times a weeks and not coming home until 12,1,2,3 am in the morning.
I have over heard him on the phone with another woman saying her clothes would look better on his bedroom floor!

It was my choice to split but his behaviour has been unacceptable where he has started kicking off in front of the children and throwing my clothes out the bedroom window. He has also snooped in my handbag several times searching for evidence of me having an affair.

Can he choose to only take one child at a time?
As his motives are controlling and manipulating what I do? We have had police out 4 times in 2 months because of his unacceptable behaviour

Im scared and intimidated and need a break from our demanding children but he won't have them.

I hope someone can answer my question

You are still living together and that's the problem. Until that changes, then you got what you got. LIMBO, and he does what he wants. Do you work?

Why are you still living in the same house? Somebody has to go, or nothing will change no matter what you call what you're doing. It's still the same BS with a different name.

Get a babysitter is what MOST single people with kids do. DEMANDING kids? Aren't they all?

We have split over 5 months ago
We are still living together

That's like saying "the cat is dead and it's alive". It would be an oxymoron if it were just one word.

By your indicating that you "split", you suggest that you and your husband separated. If you are still living together, this is not true.



Can he choose to only take one child at a time?
Certainly.

Unless there is a court order then he can do what he wants. Plus, I agree with the others that you are not yet separated.

Will one of you be living in the martial home after the divorce or will the home be sold? As has been said, expect more of the same until one of you moves out. If it has to be you, then figure out what you need to line up in order to do soon as soon as is feasible.

The current living arrangement, with the arguing, clothes throwing, and no doubt not so subtle animosity will have a far greater negative effect on your children than their having to get used to separate time between you and their father later.