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prkingbebo15
Apr 6, 2007, 10:22 PM
I like this girl actually more than like... I told her but she told me she doesn't like me... ive been her best friend for a while already but nothing has changed except... this othe guy is acting like her boyfreind and I hate this guy not for that but once when I was in p.e. we got some large bleachers in the gym and I went to the top to gel my bag and he pushed me and I fell three sets before I grabed one of the seats I sprained my ankle and he laughed at me when I couleve been put I the danm hospital... he huges her and gives her a kiss on the cheek I've asked her if that was her boyfreind and she says no... when I told her how I feel, she said she didn't like anyone in my school and that she doesn't want a boyfreind but an idiot can tell that's a lie I've tried everything I could do... but nothing she of course she tells me evertthing but she likes to be around him more. I have a terrible love life, and I really do like this girl I do and she knows how I feel but I don't think she knows how much she's hurting me, when I was rejected by her it hurt a lot more than anything I've ever felt. I'm still in high school I'm a freshmen and its was at least 8 years seice I've ever cried but when she rejected I cried... I cried so much I idnt leave my room the whole day... and those who want to make fun of me about it I'm only going to say I don't care I cried woopty dooo. Anyway I need some help on this sutuation because I can't handle this alone.

Clough
Apr 7, 2007, 01:17 AM
You are not alone in learning how to deal with being rejected by someone you care about. If she doesn't like you, she doesn't like you. You can't expect everyone to like you. We can't be friends with everyone. Nobody can. You also cannot control what another person thinks.

You are at an age where there are many levels of mental maturity in people. Sounds like she has some maturity problems.

Please seek out people who are like yourself in terms of mutual interests. What kind of man you are depends on how you handle situations. Work to turn the scars into stars. You will have many "bumps" like this in life.

I am sure that there will be lots of girls to whom you will be attracted and who likewise will be attracted to you. Don't be in a rush. You've got lots of time and things to experience as well as work to accomplish.

Please concentrate on your school work. Get involved in clubs or organizations that are of interest to you.

Avoid people who have shown that they don't care if they are going to hurt you and enjoy doing that.

To me, a good part of life is about choices, dealing with the cards you have been dealt and, cost and benefit. And, I do not mean the cost in terms of money. But, time, effort used and what I will gain in the end.

It's okay to cry. Shows that you are a real man with feelings. Many women look for a man who has sensitivity and feelings. Many men do not have those qualities.

Fr_Chuck
Apr 7, 2007, 06:39 AM
There is no way to make anyone "like" you as a girlfriend. You go on and look and hope you find another person to be speical in your life. You have been honest and tried, that is all any of us can do

jameson23
Sep 7, 2008, 08:10 PM
Hey there man. I can totally relate to how you feel.

About a year ago, I fell for this girl whom I met in Europe. We only hung out for a week, but I was positive that she was the girl for me. When we communicated once I was back stateside, it took me a while to finally tell her how I TRULY felt. She sent me a really long email explaining how she really likes me as a friend, but nothing more. You can't imagine how crushed I felt. And three months later, she tells me she has a boyfriend. Great, right?

The good news is that I am over her now, and we continue to stay really good friends. And her boyfriend is a pretty cool guy.

I'm sorry to hear this girl rejected you, and the guy was an . That just makes it much more difficult.

It takes a while to get over the feeling of being rejected. You think that just maybe you can do something better so that maybe she will have the same feelings for you. But the fact is: she just doesn't have that feeling. And she never will.

I think all of us go through these bumps in life. It's part of being human. And yes it hurts, but you've got to believe there are better things to come, right?

I wouldn't make fun of you at all for crying. I cried over this girl many times. As mentioned above, it proves you are a real man who can show your true emotions and feelings. But don't dwell on it too much, try and continue living, and good things will happen.

Best of luck!

hjpan
Sep 7, 2008, 11:17 PM
Fight back. And forget your "best friend..." get another girl

JBeaucaire
Sep 8, 2008, 09:00 AM
People, this question is almost 2 years old... WATCH THE DATES, sheesh.

SKOOOLY38
Jan 25, 2012, 10:46 AM
I know you probably heard this a million times but,hope this is the last... move on! You are lucky to be a guy and there are lots of young girl that are looking for a guy to show them some love and respect.it feels better if you focus on something else that you may benefit from like a hobbie or two or find a smart girl in your class that may be available for a study date.after all education is what's most important to you now.you are still young and i know peer pressure and hormones are making you feel like a girl is what you need ,when in reality what you really need is self love and respect.build your muscles perhaps because at the rate your going you will need some strength to stand up to competition,and girls always go for strong mature guys.but be respectful always to everyone especially yourself.

JBeaucaire
Jan 25, 2012, 05:08 PM
And now this thread is 4 years old... as warned two years ago... WATCH THE DATES.