Soo basically my boyfriend/father of our children believes I cheated on him in the beginning of our relationship. Ok this situation is so messed up, I don't even know where to begin. This was RECENTLY brought to my attention I say within the last month-month 1/2 and I have been hearing about it non stop. It's literally driving me crazy and just breaks my heart every time he brings it up. My boyfriend's name in this situation is going to be named Anthony and my best friend's name is going to be Stacey.

This is the story: At this time of our relationship I was working at a fast food restaurant and Anthony and his 2 friends had stopped in to and get something to eat. When they left the restaurant, he told me that my best friend Stacey and her friend were in the parking lot eating in the car. At this time me and Stacey weren't speaking to each other. She was very upset with me because Anthony used to "talk" to her cousin. Stacey had asked me by text one day if I was dating him and I told her yes and she asked if I knew that her cousin used to talk to him and I told her yes and from that day forward she didn't she didn't speak to me. But back to the parking lot, Anthony told me that Stacey saw them come out of my job and offered them a ride. They took the offer and got into the car. Now, while Stacey is driving them to their destination her and her friend in the car are throwing little hints to Anthony that I slept with one of HIS FRIENDS and that FRIEND happened to be in the car. They didn't come out and say I slept with him but they were definitely implying it. Anthony told me that they were saying things like he needed to go talk to his girl (me) and Stacey asked for Anthony's friend's name while he was in the car and when the friend told her the name Stacey replied "yup that's it that's the one". He asked his friend what were they talking about and the friend was basically clueless.

Why is all this surfacing years after all of this occurred? I don't know. Why would my so called "best friend" make up something like that? My best guess is that she was trying to get Anthony to break up with me at the time because of her cousin liking him, that's the only thing I can think of. There's more details to what Stacey and her friend were saying so to Anthony it sounds like it could be true but I KNOW FOR A FACT THAT IT IS NOT TRUE.

This situation is just so unreal, I'm 4 months pregnant with our second child I am not trying to deal with this bs. I refuse to. I've cried, told him all the reasons how it's not true but he just won't believe me. We have been through hell and back during this relationship, but despite all that we been through I still love him regardless. I feel like we are meant for each other. He is the type of person who believes in complete honesty and all that he has been through makes it very difficult to believe people. I just want him so desperately to believe me, I told him that I'm going to talk to Stacey about but he's is the type of person who likes the keep his and our issues private and he thinks that she is going to lie. I feel like he's leaving me with no choice, I can only take these false accusations after so long.

So please, will somebody help me?

help? If after all this time, he is believing her and not you, then there isn't much you can do other than accept that it will continue this way or leave him because of it.

Stop talking about it. Don't bring it up. You are dragging it out and giving him even more to wonder about because you keep dragging this out. Move forward and stop spinning your wheels in this swamp. Stress affects your pregnancy, so, for that reason alone if for no other, stop talking about this. Your positive conversations and actions prove you are moving forward. If he can't leave it alone too and move forward, especially with a baby on the way, leave HIM.

I'm not the one who brings it up , he is the one who always does. I try to avoid this topic the best I can. And I understand why he believes her because for one he's looking at it like why would my "best friend" lie on me. I keep telling him that my word is not going to change and I'm just to the point where I wish I did so I can admit to him so he would just stop torturing me with this every day, that's how crazy this is driving me. Here's another reason that he thinks I cheated on him: Me and him were at that his friend's house one day (the friend he's accusing me of sleeping with) and we were all drinking. Him and his other friend went to walk to the store and he asked if I wanted to come, he says that I chose to stay behind. So him and his friend walk to the store while me and the friend (one I get accused of sleeping with) and a 3rd guy stay behind. Anthony says when he comes back into the house from the store I'm sitting next to friend 1 (I'm just going to call him friend 1) while the other guy is sitting on the other side of me. He says that looked suspicious to him. Now this store isn't far from their house it's literally 10-12 minutes away walking distance. I'm just thinking to myself while he's telling me all this "Why in the hell would I risk being caught by you when you're only minutes away?" I know for a fact I was not that drunk, I have only been belligerently drunk one time and I even still recall things that happened from that night. Anthony told me that was the night Stacey texted me with question "was I dating Anthony?" And while Anthony was in the car with Stacey while she was taking him and his friends home, she says that I was drunk the night I slept with his friend. So now after Anthony evaluated everything, he's come to the conclusion that she was referring to the night he left me with his friends to walk to the store. It looks believable so it's like what do I do? I know that it looks true but it's not. He says Stacey said that while I was supposedly telling her all of this I was drunk on the night I slept with him so I was uncertain if I actually did or not. And I'm just thinking that's some bull because even if I was drunk I would still remember, matter of fact the very first night me and my boyfriend had sex I was belligerently drunk and I would still remember having sex with him. So her saying all of this is just a bunch of bs. I just don't know what to do... Would it be wise to talk to Stacey so I can just squash this matter or should I just refuse to discuss this any longer since I've already told him that I'm not lying?

You need to decide how important this is and how far you are willing to go then you need to straighten him out. Talk to him, tell him this did not happen and if he can't stop his accusations, he can go find someone else to accuse because you are done with it all. I would also reconsider my friendship with Stacey if I was you...who needs a troublemaker like that in their life?

No. Don't talk to Stacy. Do not respond at all if this is brought up by ANYone. Change the conversation or walk away. Kill the drama. Don't be any part of it.

You don't need a friend like Stacey, and you don't need a boyfriend who doesn't believe you no matter how many babies he gives you. You really should draw a line on this subject, and tell him the discussion is over so deal with it, or get gone. Be willing to back it up.

Your boyfriend is insecure, AND insensitive. Who brings up this old crap to a pregnant partner? A class A BOOB!! Class A boobs will send you through changes. Don't let them. Not worth arguing over and changing a boobs mind is a total waste of time.

I am just at a breaking point. I don't want to lose my relationship with him over a lie? It just makes me so angry at Stacey. We are not as close as we used to be we talk from time to time, I just don't get why she would do something so heartless to me even if she was upset with me. All this crap is just ridiculous. And right, I've asked him the same thing. Why are you just now bringing this up after all this time, why? I just want to prove to him but I feel like I shouldn't have to go to that extent but since I love him I feel like I have to. I'm just so confused and hurt ):

Does he have a JOB? How does he have so much free time to rehash the past?
You are just adding fuel to the flames by trying to 'prove' you didn't do anything. You can't! It's not your job anyway.

Here's what I think: He's worried about having another child to support (if he does work). Responsibility and serious requirements are weighing down on him. He doesn't really know it or get it, but he's scared.

Some men freak out in the weirdest, most unrelated ways like this.
ASK HIM what's really going on. Don't shout at him, or plead, or explain yourself. This is HIS problem. Try to be as gentle as calm as possible. Ask him if any of what I say makes sense. And if it's not that, wait to see if it's something else. Maybe he's attracted to another woman, and tempted, and trying to turn the tables on you. But save that question for if nothing else seems to make sense, and again - no accusing or threatening. Just ask, calmly.

Yes he has a job. And yes you could be right, he probably is scared. But what should I ask him specifically? I mean I doubt he's attracted to someone else, won't say it's not possible but I highly doubt it. But what exactly should I ask him?

Ask him in your own words what I said in my second paragraph. I don't know him!

Excellent perspective Joy. He may well be afraid, or in a panic, but can't run and hide so he starts crap. Not a very good way to handle his fear, or STRESS at having a pregnant wife, but very plausible.

Did he act this way before with the first child? You have alluded to "all the thing we have been thru" and I was curious what they could be. How long before you got pregnant were you an official couple? How long did you date. What kind of work does he do? Do you still work? Please some more background would be helpful.

Just refuse to listen to him, explain to him, or write him a letter, that you did not, and you will no longer listen to him or discuss it.

If he wants to talk about it, leave, and if he does again, leave again