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Prettyyunique
Aug 9, 2014, 01:47 AM
Hi, I was recently active for the first time so of course I know nothing. I'm pretty sure it was durning my ovulation period! The guy isn't sure if he pulled out in time, we were not using any protection. This happened roughly 4days ago and I've been noticing spotting. Is this normal or should I be concerned?

Fr_Chuck
Aug 9, 2014, 01:58 AM
You should be scared to death, since you are doing something with little knowledge of how it works and what can happen.1. pulling out, does not stop pregnancy, only lowers chance. Even if he did pull out in time. ( most men can't) there are plenty of sperm in the early fluids to allow pregnancy.2. how do you "think" it is your ovulation time? Are you using medical testing to know. Online charts are just estimates for many women, but not always exact.3. Spotting can mean many things, so there is no way to tell.4. Now you just wait and see if you miss the next period or now.

Prettyyunique
Aug 9, 2014, 02:17 AM
Thank you, your answer was truly hopeful! I am actually very nervous and I believe it was durning my ovulation time cause it was 2 weeks after my last cycle. Again thank you for your answer I greatly appreciate it, hoping for the best and nomore unprotected sex.

joypulv
Aug 9, 2014, 07:16 AM
One reason for spotting (of many) is mid-cycle tendency to spot sometimes. That may be when you ovulated, or it may not. You have probably heard that ovulation occurs mid-cycle, but that is just the norm (average of millions of women), and EVERY woman is going to have something out of the norm, and is NEVER going to be the same from month to month and year to year.
There are exceptions every single day to every 'rule' about menstruation and pregnancy. They get pregnant using 2 or even THREE forms of birth control! They get pregnant after their uterus was removed, because one tiny piece was left and it stretched! They have what seem to be periods for 1, 2, sometimes more months of actual pregnancy! We could tell stories all day long.
Spend at least a week reading online about sex and pregnancy (and disease, and forms of birth control). Go to a clinic about the pill or patch or IUD.
Go to a drugstore and study the boxes of HPTs (home pregnancy tests). You may need some.
Worry and stress can change your periods too...

Prettyyunique
Aug 15, 2014, 12:56 AM
Thank you very much! I really appreciate you taking time out your day to help me. I recently started getting itchy chest and a pain in my lower right side (Not too bad) however I'm still hopeful for a period next week and then on to some birth control. Once again thank you, I never thought I'd be 23 and knowing little about sex lol

ScottGem
Aug 15, 2014, 05:13 AM
I never thought I'd be 23 and knowing little about sex lol.

I hate to pile on but who's fault is that? I can understand if you said you were 14, but at 23, what you don't know is because you have not taken the initiative to find out. There is a wealth of information about the reproductive cycle, menstrual cycle etc. that is little more than a click away. So, before you engage in sex it is incumbent on you to educate yourself.

That being said, unless you are specifically tracking you can't tell when you ovulate. Even then, you can get indications, but not sure knowledge of when you ovulate. The first physical manifestation of pregnancy is a missed period. So anything you are seeing or feeling prior to your next due date are not due to pregnancy.

As noted, no form of birth control is 100% effective, so research, talk to your OB/Gyn and decide what is best for you.

Prettyyunique
Aug 15, 2014, 09:42 PM
Thank you, I know a lot about sex in general just haven't had it nor experienced some of these symptoms that's what I meant by the question. I was previously using birth control but stopped because it conflicted with other medication (anemia meds) I can agree I am at fault however thank you for thee advice