Hi, I am a 14 year old girl who has only had sex twice, this was about 4 months ago, I haven't had any sexual activity for about a month and a half now. I wear cotton underwear and I keep myself very well clean. Just 3 days ago I went to take a shower and I used a different soap, and I cleaned my vagina with it.. not in it or anything but just the outer parts. The next day I did what I normally do, went to school. By the end of the day I moved a certain way and felt tenderness.. I went home later and checked it out and it seemed a bit red, tender, and itchy. Maybe the pants I was wearing rubbed against it..
The next day it was a little better but it was still red and itcy, and it one spot it was tender.
I left it alone.
The next day, it seemed to be really dry, around my lips also.. it was peeling a little, not much but it was peeling :confused: still, I left it alone. It's a little itchy still, &still red.

I'm not sure what to do because I have no way of going to a doctor.
Maybe I should just leave it alone, not continue to use that soap.. and just give it time?

Help please?

Hun, I am sorry to give you this news, but you NEED to see a doctor. It sounds as though you may either have a yeast infection or possibly a STD. Both of which are easily treatable, but need a prescription for an antibiotic from a doctor.

If it is a STD and is left untreated there can be some serious life threatening consquences. So, please see a doctor. S/he cannot tell your parents anything about your condition or treatment. Just tell your Mum that you think you may have a yeast infection, they are not uncommon and she has even had at least 1 or 2 in her life.

But I don't see how and that irritates me :|

Sorry, I'm not arguing, I'm just scared..
:/

J_9 is right about seeing a doctor, but I have had the same thing happen to me before when using a different soap, so it could be that. But I wasn't sexually active at that point in my life and I have VERY sensitive skin, so in your case you still need to see the dr. to be sure.

but i don't see how and that irritates me :|

sorry, i'm not arguing, i'm just scared..
:/

How? You have had sex, therefore you were possibly exposed to STDs. Some STDs can take a while before you notice them, its not necessarily immediate. And as for Yeast Infections, anyone can get them at any time.

If you mean how to see a doctor... go to a local clinic. Most won't require you to use your parents insurance, and they will help you while still keeping your information private.
Or you can go to your normal Gyno (or if you have never gone, find one) and use your parents insurance but tell your mother what J_9 suggested. The doctor can not reveal anything to your mom. There is nothing to be scared of. And most things can be cleared up no problem.

but i don't see how and that irritates me :|

sorry, i'm not arguing, i'm just scared..
:/

You don't see how what?

If you had sex, no matter how few times, you could have been infected with a STD.

If you had sex, no matter how few times, you could get a yeast infection.

If you NEVER had sex, you can still get a yeast infection, especially if you have been on antibiotics recently.

You also very well could be sensitive to the soap.

But to know for sure you have to be checked out by a doctor. If, and just IF it is a STD, there are some that if left untreated can affect your brain (just an example, but syphillis can affect your brain if left untreated). A yeast infection can become septic (in your bloodstream) if left untreated for a long time.

So, hun, for your health's sake, tell your Mom you think you have a yeast infection and get to the doctor. Remember, I am sure she has had a few yeast infections in her time.

Well I know the person I had sex with twice, didn't have anything, he wasn't filthy or anything.. & the other one I didn't have sex with but I'm pretty sure nothing could have happened there.

& I also have very sensitive skin.
So I'm not sure. It's just the whole talking to my mom about it :\
She know's nothing I've done..

Yes, but a yeast infection doesn't say anything to your mom but that you are human. It doesn't tell her you have had sex or anything. And unless your boyfriend had tests results that he showed you, just "looking" at him and thinking he was clean doesn't mean anything. Your mother will understand a yeast infection. We all get them.:o

Thank you for your help, and the things you've said.
I'll write her an e-mail so I don't have to actually speak these things. :|

But yeah, thank you :]

Whatever works for you! And good luck!:)

Young lady -- I am a single dad and even I know about yeast infections.Your mom will not think twice about it.

BUT why at 14 are you having sex already? And I hope you used protection. Don`t be in such a hurry to grow up lol. -- Savage

J_9, thank you for your help, but he was a virgin, and at the time so was I. sorry I didn't state that, but yes, he was clean.

young lady -- I am a single dad and even I know about yeast infections.Your mom will not think twice about it.

BUT why at 14 are you having sex already? and I hope you used protection. Don`t be in such a hurry to grow up lol. -- Savage


Haha well yes, we used protection. And I'm not trying to be in such a hurry to grow up. :]

Well you may have been a virgin, but just going by his word is not good enough. Always be careful, and think about your well being. I don't mean to lecture or anything, but you are so young. Good luck.

haha well yes, we used protection. and i'm not trying to be in such a hurry to grow up. :]

Good to hear that you used protection and that you both were virgins. However, I believe you mentioned another person too?

Not in a hurry to grow up means not in a hurry to have sex.

Sex = babies, plain and simple. There is no form of birth control that is 100% effective.

So, if you are afraid to talk to your Mom about a yeast infection, just think about how frightening it will be to tell her that you are pregnant.

Amen! J_9

I got what I need, thank you.

& J_9, thanks for pointing out the obvious in all this.
I'm not that big of an idiot.

Did I know you were not an idiot? No, I don't know you. You know we have some gals that come here that don't know that much about sex.

It is quite obvious that you think you know more than you do, just like most 14 year olds. LOL, I have one that is almost 14 upstairs looking at herself in the mirror right now. LOL

Well I'm sorry your daughters one of those girls who think like that.
No I don't know everything, or else I wouldn't be here right now.

Like I said, thank you for everything.
Sorry I come off as snooty.

No need to be sorry for me and my daughter, she is one of the smartest gals I know. She knows about STDs and how you get them, she is not afraid to talk to me about ANYTHING, she knows about reputations and girls that get them and how they get them. She knows that school and grades are more important than boys at this age. She knows that sex is not important until you are ready for children.

So she is NOT one of "those" girls.

All of you early teens think you know more than you really do, but we have been there, done that and got the t-shirt. You will realize that when you have a teenage daughter too.

She's just trying to help, no need to make it personal.

BTW J_9 I think you handled that very professionally... I couldn't leave you rep, but you deserved it there.

TY Angel. I have 3 teens and a 5 year old. So, I am quite used to this sort of thing.

How did the girl get snotty and deserve a smart remark? She didn't say anything but I know what to do no, thank you. That means she got it, thatnk you for the help. What part of that is confussing?

Sorry Rayne, no one ever said she got snotty. She said she got snotty.

I wouldn't give it time.
If you have a yeast infection - try eating yogurt. It has a live culture (acidophilus) in it that works great for those. It is actually good to eat yogurt when you start an antibotic and continue eating it through the duration and a couple days after - to ward off a yeast infection. Everyone gets them and they are miserable. My first one made me bleed - not fun. I know, TMI!
If you think that is what it is - you can get medication over the counter. Also, don't wear underwear at night - it lets you breath.

hi, i am a 14 year old girl who has only had sex twice, this was about 4 months ago, i havent had any sexual activity for about a month and a half now. i wear cotton underwear and i keep myself very well clean. just 3 days ago i went to take a shower and i used a different soap, and i cleaned my vagina with it.. not in it or anything but just the outer parts. the next day i did what i normally do, went to school. by the end of the day i moved a certain way and felt tenderness.. i went home later and checked it out and it seemed a bit red, tender, and itchy. maybe the pants i was wearing rubbed against it..?
the next day it was alittle better but it was still red and itcy, and it one spot it was tender.
i left it alone.
the next day, it seemed to be really dry, around my lips also.. it was peeling a little, not much but it was peeling :confused: still, i left it alone. its alittle itchy still, &still red.

i'm not sure what to do because i have no way of going to a doctor.
maybe i should just leave it alone, not continue to use that soap.. and just give it time?

help please?
I think it might be the soap if I where you I would use a different soap and tell my mom

Haha wow. All of you get worked up over a 14 year old.
Why would a 40 some odd year old start getting smart with a 14 year old.
Thank you for all your help for those who did help.

:]!

Your welcome and I'm just 15 myself

I think people get worked up because you are 14 and could easily be one of ours.

Haha yeah I think it might have something to do with the soap..
Cause I took a shower earlier today & my symptoms are going away- ish.

They arnt as bad.

haha yeah i think it might have something to do with the soap..
cause i took a shower earlier today & my symptoms are going away- ish.

they arnt as bad.
Well stop using that soap and if it don't stop go to that doc

I think people get worked up because you are 14 and could easily be one of ours.

Hah. Maybe?

Be careful what soap you use down there - My GYN. Told me NO SOAP.. at all down there. Which I think is gross not keep clean - so I still do, but it is made for that part.
If the sym. Are still there, but are better after you shower - try taking a bath and soak before you go to bed and then try to air dry - wear boxers.

Be careful what soap you use down there - My GYN. told me NO SOAP..at all down there. Which I think is gross not keep clean - so I still do, but it is made for that part.
If the sym. are still there, but are better after you shower - try taking a bath and soak before you go to bed and then try to air dry - wear boxers.

Thank youuu :]

thank youuu :]
Your welcome

I did the same thing, except I wrote a letter to my mom

My GYN also said to not use soap, he suggested using shampoo instead. Try that. I would like to add that I agree with everyone here. Good advice and very helpful.