Ever since I was little they have been choosing what I should wear and I never got to decide myself what I can wear. Even when we go shopping my mom chooses everything and picks out anything off the rack that SHE likes no matter how much I HATE IT. I've never been able to express my style through clothing. I want to wear skinny jeans because they are very trendy these days and everyone at my school wears them but my parents think they are "inappropriate" because they show "too much legs" and it also shows the butt however if they think it shows too much butt I can just wear a long top to cover it up but no matter how much I tell them they still won't let me. The only kinds of jeans they let me wear is BAGGY jeans and honestly I don't know anyone in the world who wears baggy jeans except me. They won't let me wear leggings or any kinds of tight pants either everything I wear has to be baggy. Also the pants I wear cannot be shorts I'm not allowed to wear shorts because they think I'm showing so much skin but I'm not!

The pants I wear have to at least cover my knees I can't wear pants above the knees and I don't get why! My parents also won't let me wear sleeveless tops such as tank tops or spaghetti straps just because they think its inappropriate to show off your shoulders and it shows too much skin in their opinion but I don't understand what's wrong with showing off your shoulders! And even if I do wear them I'm not showing off or anything I'm just wearing them because it's a hot day and I get sweaty and uncomfortable. Another thing I cannot wear is dresses and skirts just because they think its "too girly" or because in their opinion they think it looks bad unless its for a special occasion like a wedding then they would let me wear a dress but even if I do it has to be long I cant wear mini dresses again it has to be past the knees.

I see people in my school wearing what they want why can't I express myself in clothing? I'm 14 I think I should be allowed to dress the way I want. Whenever I tell my parents I want to wear what I want and other people in my school do all they say is stuff like, I'm going to wear inappropriate clothes (in their case, skinny pants, sleeveless tops, dresses/skirts) and they think it looks bad and said I'm not allowed to dress the way I want its so unfair I also told them other people I my school can and they said their parents are bad parents for doing that is that true??

What do you guys think? Don't you think its EXTREMELY UNFAIR my parents won't let me express myself in clothing and show off my true personality??

Oh poor thing. Are you supporting yourself? Are you living in their house? I'm guessing at 14 you are living on their good graces in their house (yes it is legally their house, not yours). So you do what they say. They do everything with your best interests in mind, even if YOU can't see it right now.

Sorry if that's unfair... but life isn't fair, the world isn't fair... in fact very little in life is fair. When you are an adult, have your own job, pay your own bills (ALL OF THEM) and have your own place... then you can dress like a streetwalker if you want... until then you do what they tell you to do.

I suppose if you were allowed you woudl wear a sting bikini top and booty shorts? And don't see what that would imply to others and what sort of attention that really gets and who it comes from?

Thats taking it to the extreme...but there ARE girls that do that....woudl you be comfortible knowing 60year old guys are learing at you and not just 14 and 15 year old boys? DO you know what would REALLY be going through ALL of their minds?

It looks like your parents are old fashioned and not up on current styles. They don't want you too dress to revealingly to attract the wrong kind of attention. On the other hand, a 14 yr old does need some leeway in expressing their style.

Do you have a younger relative or family friend they trust who can intervene? Who can explain to them that making you dress in older styles is just as wrong as letting you dress the way you want to.

You need to come up with a compromise. I suspect that you are trying to choose clothes they won't accept and not trying to find an agreeable medium. Let you wear dresses, but ones just above the knee. Take mom shopping and show her how you can make an outfit out of leggings with thigh length top.

The good news is that very soon you can buy your own clothes and express your true personality. You will even get to listen to your own daughter whine about what you can afford to buy her.

I rarely got new clothes. I got hand me downs from my older sister, and horror of horrors, clothes from my mother. And my entire wardrobe was tiny. I basically wore the same 5 outfits each week. (And it was so long ago that girls weren't allowed to wear pants of any kind, even in the dead of winter.)

I do understand that times have changed, but I think that teens have gone too far with their demands for what's in style at the stupid moment. Baggy was in, now skinny is in, but HEY, jeans are EXPENSIVE!

Get some babysitting jobs and buy your own, if you are even allowed to do that. If not, that's life as a minor. When you are 18, you can do what you want. Sort of! Employers and governments and cops and all sorts of areas of life will limit you. Might as well learn it early. This may be the freest time of your life, depending on what you do with your life after high school.

Parents are usually willing to listen to good students more. But even if they don't, your FREEDOM to have skinny jeans later will depend on good grades now. Try to grit your teeth and tell yourself that clothes don't matter. (They don't.) Freedom matters. Think about a skill, a career, a business, what you want to do and be. It's not that far away.

And the people wearing skinny jeans, no sleeves and showing cleavage are the reasons many school districts are going to uniform policies. That can put baggy jeans into perspective.

What does your school dress code say about what is actually allowed in school?

Are your parents just old fashioned or do they also have religious reasons for wanting you to dress in what they think is a modest manner?

I think there may be more going on than just clothing choices. Have you shown that you can be mature and accept their choices without whining and crying about how unfair they and life are? Have you tried finding a compromise or do you get an attitude and make demands? How do you behave about other subjects such as dating and going out with your friends?

By the way, trends come and go. Basing your wardrobe off the latest trend/fad just shows that you are a follower and limits what's available in your closet when the style changes next month. Look for styles that suit your personality and figure. Remember that your body is going to be going through a lot of rapid changes over the next couple of years. Some of them can happen in a couple of months. So don't get caught up in what might look good now. It may not look the same as your figure changes.

You are an individual, a trend setter. Every girl has jumped on the band wagon to copy each other, especially with clothes. They all look alike. They all dress alike. The same old, same old. You, on the other hand, stand out from this boring crowd. You are interesting. You are daring. You have courage to stand out from the crowd. Do you really want to be a cookie-cutter version of THEM?