View Full Version : Why do I feel hurt when my text went ignored?
KatiMorton
Jul 21, 2014, 04:48 AM
I usually like to text people, sometime maybe a little too frequently I guess. I know people have lots of rules, like “don't text right after your date” “don't text the next day” but I'm not talking about texting my boyfriend. I'm talking about texting some random boy that I kind of like, or sometime just normal friends or even classmates. I just want to show my affection by doing this. “Hey! What's up?” “Oh, nothing, you?” “Just chilling.” “Cool.” I just want to show them I care about them and just show my affection. I text them "Good morning" when I wake up, and "Good night" before I go to bed, and sometimes "Sleep tight" when I'm about to fall asleep. But too often my text went ignored and I just get really upset about that. I mean, I can understand if I'm texting a cute boy and he doesn't feel the same way, but I sometime get really upset when my girlfriends constantly ignore my text. I feel deeply hurt because my affection for them got rejected!
smoothy
Jul 21, 2014, 04:57 AM
Texting is cold, detached and impersonal. If you have something to say, tell them in their face, YOu learn to deal with it because as you mature, you learn the world doesn't revolve around you, and everything doesn't feel the way you might about everything.
If someone texted me every five minutes or unimportant things like you are waking up of going to bed... I'd ignore them too.
You suck it up and deal with it... its a guy you like... its not a guy that you even admit shares your affection with you, only that at this point its completely one sided. I'd get bent out of shape if my WIFE texted me unimportant stuff all day long.
Seriously, just because you CAN, doesn't mean you SHOULD. If you see what I mean by that.
If yuo are getting hurt deeply over an unanswered unimportant Text....maybe its time to take a step back and stop doing it.
KatiMorton
Jul 21, 2014, 05:16 AM
What's a better way to show your affection then? Like I want to tell my girlfriends I care about them and I just want to show my affection, and be friendly.
Oliver2011
Jul 21, 2014, 05:35 AM
I agree with Smoothy and will add - Don't sweat the small stuff. You are taking someone not texting you back as a personal insult and I doubt that is the case. Maybe that person is mowing the grass, or grounded, or at a movie, or any of 1,000,000 reasons texting you back isn't their first priority.
Additionally consider this. I have certain friends that I know if I answer one of their text, I am text committed to their next 18,903 additional texts that will immediately come to me after I respond to their original texts. Don't be that person. Sometimes people appreciate one text and one text only.
smoothy
Jul 21, 2014, 05:39 AM
Understand that many times someone will not feel the same about you and as such will not return your affection.
If you can't express it to them in person, then you should not do it at all. Texting is not a substitute for actual interpersonal relations. Meaning face to face communications. This way you can judge how they feel by watching how they react when you tell them, and know if its time to stop and walk away, or see if they show any interest at all. Something thats simply not possible texting. You can see it in their face, and how they move their bodies, few people are good at hiding their true feelings even if they don't say a word.
No harm in talking to him... because how would you find out either way... just be prepared to give up on it if he doesn't express a return interest in you. That's normal and not every person you have an early interest in will have an interest in you. Talking with them face to face is how you find out if ou have a chance or not. If they don't show any interest, then walk away, and don't try to push it. People that do that appear to be creepy and they quickly lose whatever chance they might have had. Yes that applies equally to both guys and gals, and it applies to everyone no matter how old they are.
Insessant texting about nothing or completely unimportant stuff shows immaturity, and it lessens the perceived value of everything else you text, even when it is something important. Because the people that receive them think, Oh gawd, not again... just like that junk mail you get in your mailbox... that gets thrown away before you even open and read it.
Homegirl 50
Jul 21, 2014, 05:41 AM
Not everyone likes to text. I know I don't. Try a phone call. If you are taking a person not returning a text personal, you need to lighten up. It's not that serious. Maybe you are texting them too much. Some people don't want to have your every thought or action texted to them.
talaniman
Aug 1, 2014, 06:15 AM
You don't have to always try to show affection all the time. Pick your spots and in person. You never know why a text is not returned, so NEVER take it personally, but don't keep texting a person just to show affection when the text, or affection is not returned.
Just because that's what YOU like to do doesn't mean others are the same way, or will behave the same way. Or even think the same way. Just because you can text someone doesn't mean you should.