TigerGuy
Jul 5, 2014, 12:09 PM
Where do I start, I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years now, I am now 21 and she is 23 we got together at a young age and have been through so much together. Recently we have been going downhill but there are so many things, first of all when I met her she was living with her dad, I was living with my parents.
After 2 years of being together her dad decided to move 300 miles away and she decided to stay because she had just got a new job, she doesn't speak to her dad at the moment due to arguments and stuff, anyway she got her own flat at this point and we would see each other almost every day after she finished work and I was studying at this point. After about 6 months of her living in her flat she could no longer afford to live there due to the cost of rent and other bills and debts she had. Because we had been seeing each other so much I asked my parents if she could come a stay with me, this would allow her to pay debts off and save money. So she has been living with me ever since, it was supposed to be temporary but she seemed fine with it, anyway the time has come that she thinks we need a break after 5 years. I know she wants to move out again and get her own place and I said we should both move out but she said she wants her own space and independence, with me perhaps staying a few nights a week. She told me she loves me but not sure if she wants to be with me and she wants to see how she feels when alone to try and work things out.
I understand this but it's very awkward because she is still living with me and she comes back from work and just seems unhappy, there are more problems. I think she is starting to like someone else from her job. She is very attractive and she is always speaking to this guy (he is a player) and they spend a lot of time together along with her other work friends, and she has deleted texts from this guy as well. I seen one text and he asked her to go and take a "picture" for him. You know what type of picture I'm talking about. When I asked her about this she said she didn't respond to it but she still texts him a lot she said they are just friends (he has a girlfriend, but there not very serious). We both work for the same company (she helped me get a job) but we work in different stores, because we spent so much time together over the last 5 years, we don't really speak to our old friends because of this, but now she has new friends at work and I don't see my friends much because they are always busy or have girlfriends.
I want to try and work things out but I'm worried she is falling out of love with me and likes someone else. We have spoken about it and she just said she needs her own space to find out what she wants. This is a massive shock. She used to love just spending time with me and get mad when I done stuff without her. I'm sick of worrying about this because I know when she does move out everything will change and it may be over, and everything we have been through will be gone in an instant. I have loved her for so long and she said we will always be friends no matter what. I could not bare to see her with anyone else it would just crush me.
The problem is we need a break but she doesn't have her own place yet. I used to wake up and think I was the luckiest guy ever but now it feels like I've lost everything, and the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm from the UK and we have been on holidays together and done so much together and been there for each other when times got hard. 6 months ago we were fine but it feels like we have slowly gone down since and I haven't done anything and I'm trying to rack my brain to see where it's gone wrong, we always used to plan things to do when we were off work and always have fun together. But now when we're not working and she's not with her work friends we just act so different.
After 2 years of being together her dad decided to move 300 miles away and she decided to stay because she had just got a new job, she doesn't speak to her dad at the moment due to arguments and stuff, anyway she got her own flat at this point and we would see each other almost every day after she finished work and I was studying at this point. After about 6 months of her living in her flat she could no longer afford to live there due to the cost of rent and other bills and debts she had. Because we had been seeing each other so much I asked my parents if she could come a stay with me, this would allow her to pay debts off and save money. So she has been living with me ever since, it was supposed to be temporary but she seemed fine with it, anyway the time has come that she thinks we need a break after 5 years. I know she wants to move out again and get her own place and I said we should both move out but she said she wants her own space and independence, with me perhaps staying a few nights a week. She told me she loves me but not sure if she wants to be with me and she wants to see how she feels when alone to try and work things out.
I understand this but it's very awkward because she is still living with me and she comes back from work and just seems unhappy, there are more problems. I think she is starting to like someone else from her job. She is very attractive and she is always speaking to this guy (he is a player) and they spend a lot of time together along with her other work friends, and she has deleted texts from this guy as well. I seen one text and he asked her to go and take a "picture" for him. You know what type of picture I'm talking about. When I asked her about this she said she didn't respond to it but she still texts him a lot she said they are just friends (he has a girlfriend, but there not very serious). We both work for the same company (she helped me get a job) but we work in different stores, because we spent so much time together over the last 5 years, we don't really speak to our old friends because of this, but now she has new friends at work and I don't see my friends much because they are always busy or have girlfriends.
I want to try and work things out but I'm worried she is falling out of love with me and likes someone else. We have spoken about it and she just said she needs her own space to find out what she wants. This is a massive shock. She used to love just spending time with me and get mad when I done stuff without her. I'm sick of worrying about this because I know when she does move out everything will change and it may be over, and everything we have been through will be gone in an instant. I have loved her for so long and she said we will always be friends no matter what. I could not bare to see her with anyone else it would just crush me.
The problem is we need a break but she doesn't have her own place yet. I used to wake up and think I was the luckiest guy ever but now it feels like I've lost everything, and the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm from the UK and we have been on holidays together and done so much together and been there for each other when times got hard. 6 months ago we were fine but it feels like we have slowly gone down since and I haven't done anything and I'm trying to rack my brain to see where it's gone wrong, we always used to plan things to do when we were off work and always have fun together. But now when we're not working and she's not with her work friends we just act so different.